HI\u1ec2U V\u00c0 GI\u00daP NG\u01af\u1edcI B\u1ea0N GHEN<\/b><\/p>\n
C\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ghen, n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng, ch\u00fang ta \u0111ui m\u00f9 v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n hi\u1ec7n h\u00e0nh. Th\u00f4ng tin v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u1eafm gi\u1eef k\u1ef9 l\u01b0\u1ee1ng v\u00e0 n\u1ebfu th\u1ea5y tai h\u1ea1i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra, t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n ph\u1ea3i n\u00ean tr\u00e1nh, ph\u1ea3i ng\u01b0ng trong m\u1ed9t l\u00fac \u0111\u1ec3 xem \u0111\u00e2u l\u00e0 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ea7n l\u00e0m. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ghen kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y r\u00f5 m\u00ecnh v\u00ec \u0111\u1ea7y c\u1ea3m x\u00fac. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ghen, kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f3 nh\u1eadn ra nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd. Nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 d\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec? \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec3m quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh cho b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 m\u1ed9t th\u00f4ng tin t\u00e2m l\u00fd n\u00e0o. Ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c r\u1eb1ng t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00f9ng cho m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch x\u1ea5u c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 t\u1ed1t. N\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00f9ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t v\u0169 kh\u00ed c\u00f3 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00e1 ho\u1ea1i, ho\u1eb7c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 c\u0103n b\u1ea3n cho thi\u1ec7n c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m th\u00f4ng. N\u1ebfu n\u1ea1n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ghen l\u01b0u \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 khoa h\u1ecdc trong vi\u1ec7c ch\u1ec9 ra cho \u0111\u1ed1i th\u1ee7 r\u1eb1ng n\u00f3 d\u00f9ng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u00fa \u00fd ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0m b\u1ea1o ch\u00faa th\u00ec k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 l\u1ee3i g\u00ec.\u00a0 N\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0m t\u0103ng s\u1ef1 gi\u1eadn d\u1eef v\u00e0 l\u00e0m x\u1ea5u h\u01a1n c\u00e1i li\u00ean h\u1ec7 b\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 th\u00f4i. S\u1ef1 th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch th\u00edch h\u1ee3p b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch tr\u00e1nh di\u1ec5n t\u1ea3 b\u1eb1ng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00ecnh bi\u1ebft, tr\u00e1i l\u1ea1i d\u00f9ng ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c cho h\u00e0nh vi th\u00edch h\u1ee3p v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng h\u1eefu \u00edch.<\/p>\n
Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 b\u1ec7nh ghen \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng? M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 ghen \u0111\u00f3? H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 kinh nghi\u1ec7m t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng kh\u00f3 x\u1eed n\u00e0y s\u1ebd t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3 d\u1eabu \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 vi\u1ec7n l\u00fd r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 l\u00fd tr\u00ed. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n n\u00f3i l\u00fd tr\u00ed, n\u1ebfu \u0111\u1ec3 thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c th\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng v\u00f4 \u00edch m\u00e0 th\u00f4i. V\u00ec h\u1ecd d\u00f9ng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p sai l\u1ea7m n\u00ean h\u1ecd xem t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng v\u00f4 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u1ee9u ch\u1eefa.<\/p>\n
Ch\u00fang ta th\u1eed t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng \u00edt th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng h\u01a1n. \u00d4ng ch\u1ed3ng v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 bu\u1ed5i chi\u1ec1u, th\u1ea5y b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 im l\u1eb7ng n\u1eb7ng n\u1ec1. C\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i l\u1eddi ch\u00e0o c\u1ee7a anh ta. C\u00f3 s\u1ef1 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng trong b\u1ea7u kh\u00f4ng kh\u00ed gia \u0111\u00ecnh. C\u00e1i g\u00ec x\u1ea3y ra v\u1eady? Kh\u00f4ng tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi. R\u00f5 r\u00e0ng l\u00e0 c\u00f4 n\u00e0ng gi\u1eadn. Anh ta c\u0169ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean gi\u1eadn v\u00e0 \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 c\u1eaft ngh\u0129a. Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng c\u00f4 b\u1eadc kh\u00f3c v\u00e0 n\u00f3i: \u201cAnh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi c\u00f4 b\u1ea1n g\u00e1i c\u0169 c\u1ee7a anh!\u201d T\u1ea1i sao x\u00e1o tr\u1ed9n l\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ebfn?<\/p>\n
\u00d4ng ch\u1ed3ng trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m g\u00ec? N\u1ebfu \u00f4ng ta t\u1eed t\u1ebf v\u00e0 bi\u1ebft quan t\u00e2m, \u00f4ng ta c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi n\u00e0ng, c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c n\u00e0ng r\u1eb1ng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00fang. Kh\u00f4ng bao l\u00e2u \u00f4ng ta s\u1ebd l\u00e0m m\u1ed9t sai l\u1ea7m l\u00e0: xin l\u1ed7i cho s\u1ef1 ch\u1eadm tr\u1ec5 n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u00f3. N\u00e0ng kh\u00f4ng tin ch\u00e0ng d\u1eabu cho ch\u00e0ng n\u00f3i g\u00ec. Ch\u00e0ng s\u1ebd c\u00e0ng h\u1ed3i h\u1ed9p v\u00e0 t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta khi gi\u1eadn d\u1eef v\u00e0 chua cay th\u00ec n\u00f3i nhi\u1ec1u. N\u00f3i mang ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi nhau khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta trong tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i th\u00e2n thi\u1ec7n, nh\u01b0ng khi gi\u1eadn nhau v\u00e0 ch\u1ed1ng nhau l\u1eddi n\u00f3i l\u00e0 v\u0169 kh\u00ed l\u00e0m ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta \u0111au l\u00f2ng h\u01a1n l\u00e0 t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 x\u00e1c.<\/p>\n
\u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh trong s\u1ef1 c\u00e3i nhau v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ghen. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ecb c\u00e1o c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng b\u00e0o ch\u1eefa. Ch\u00fang ta tin nhi\u1ec1u v\u00e0o l\u00fd lu\u1eadn v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u \u00edt v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd. Thay v\u00ec h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111\u00fang theo t\u00e2m l\u00fd, ch\u00fang ta c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng n\u00f3i theo l\u00fd lu\u1eadn.<\/p>\n
L\u00fd lu\u1eadn th\u00ec kh\u00f3 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n \u0111\u00fang, nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang ta sai khi ch\u00fang ta c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng c\u1eaft ngh\u0129a ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0 \u0111\u00fang. Ch\u00fang ta qu\u00ean quan t\u00e2m xem th\u1eed nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf c\u00f3 ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi l\u00fd l\u1ebd hay kh\u00f4ng? Kh\u00f4ng quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00fang hay sai, v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00fang c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7. Ngay c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta sai, ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111\u00fang theo t\u00e2m l\u00fd. Nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00fang theo l\u00fd lu\u1eadn v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng sai theo t\u00e2m l\u00fd. Th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c k\u00edch \u0111\u1ed9ng b\u1edfi c\u1ea3m x\u00fac m\u1ea1nh, s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd thay \u0111\u1ed5i b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng l\u00fd lu\u1eadn, tranh c\u00e3i c\u00f3 l\u00fd ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng, v\u00ec m\u1ed7i l\u00fd lu\u1eadn ch\u00fang ta d\u00f9ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia c\u00f3 c\u1ea3 3 c\u00e1i l\u00fd lu\u1eadn c\u00f3 l\u00fd h\u01a1n. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 gi\u1eadn d\u1ed7i nhau. M\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 tranh c\u00e3i t\u1edbi c\u00f9ng trong s\u1ef1 cay \u0111\u1eafng cho \u0111\u1ebfn khi c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7t s\u1ee9c v\u00e0 h\u1ed1i h\u1eadn v\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m kh\u1ed5 nhau h\u1ebft m\u1ee9c.<\/p>\n
M\u1ed9t l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb7c t\u00ednh trong vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ed1i \u0111\u1ea7u v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ghen v\u00ec ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111ang trong \u0111\u1ea7u \u00f3c h\u1ecd. Ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft c\u00e1i g\u00ec t\u1ea1o n\u00ean s\u1ef1 \u0111au kh\u1ed5 hi\u1ec7n th\u1eddi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Ch\u00fang ta ch\u1ec9 nh\u1eadn ra s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t c\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0m cho ch\u00fang ta. Ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ecb t\u1ed1 c\u00e1o v\u00f4 l\u00fd, b\u1ecb x\u00fac ph\u1ea1m kh\u00f4ng ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e1ng. S\u1ef1 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng t\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ee7 c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh trong t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng nguy hi\u1ec3m l\u00e0m ch\u00fang ta gi\u1eadn d\u1ed7i. Trong l\u00fac ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m g\u00ec, ch\u00fang ta th\u00f9 gh\u00e9t v\u00e0 ch\u1ed1ng nhau. Thay v\u00ec m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi sai, b\u00e2y gi\u1edd c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u sai.<\/p>\n
Th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ghen t\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0m nh\u1eb9 \u0111i trong c\u00e1ch th\u00f4ng th\u00e1i v\u00e0 t\u1ebf nh\u1ecb n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta b\u1ea3o \u0111\u1ea3m v\u1ec1 ch\u00fang ta, n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng xem ch\u00fang ta nh\u01b0 b\u1ecb h\u1ea1 nh\u1ee5c ho\u1eb7c b\u1ecb l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng. M\u1ed9t c\u00e1i m\u1ec9m c\u01b0\u1eddi, m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 bi\u1ec3u l\u1ed9 ki\u00ean nh\u1eabn, m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i h\u00f4n nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng, m\u1ed9t l\u1eddi d\u1ecbu ng\u1ecdt ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o n\u00ean nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u k\u1ef3 l\u1ea1. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 b\u1edbt c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng d\u1ec5 ch\u1ecbu l\u00e0m d\u1ecbu \u0111i s\u1ef1 h\u1ed3i h\u1ed9p n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta bi\u1ebft ki\u00ean nh\u1eabn m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat. Qu\u1edf tr\u00e1ch v\u00e0 c\u00e3i l\u1ed9n kh\u00f4ng mang l\u1ea1i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i, d\u1ec5 ch\u1ecbu tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i thi\u1ebft y\u1ebfu. Ch\u1ec9 sau khi b\u1ea7u kh\u00ed \u1ea3m \u0111\u1ea1m kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng \u0111\u00e3 qua \u0111i, m\u1edbi c\u00f3 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i cho s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u00edch hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3.<\/p>\n
V\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ghen c\u1ea7n s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. N\u00f3i v\u1edbi h\u1ecd r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00fang th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u bi\u1ebft s\u1ef1 sai l\u1ea7m c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c nh\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1ecbn \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 ghen t\u01b0\u01a1ng. Th\u1eadt ra n\u00f3 v\u1eabn c\u00f2n t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c d\u00f9ng l\u00fd lu\u1eadn. V\u00ec ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u h\u1ecd, n\u00ean h\u1ecd di\u1ec5n t\u1ea3 h\u1ecd c\u00e1ch sai l\u1ea7m. S\u1ef1 t\u1ed1 c\u00e1o th\u00ec sai theo l\u00fd lu\u1eadn nh\u01b0ng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng t\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ee7 v\u00e0 b\u1ecb qu\u00ean l\u00e3ng th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng sai. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m nhi\u1ec1u chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch v\u00e0 cung c\u1ea5p m\u1ed9t c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ch\u1eafc ch\u00e1n v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 an to\u00e0n. H\u00e3y cho h\u1ecd bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd c\u1ea7n bao nhi\u00eau \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap h\u1ecd khu\u1ea5t ph\u1ee5c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ee7.<\/p>\n
M\u1ed9t l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m n\u1eefa c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u00e1nh. Khi ch\u00fang ta c\u00e3i l\u1ed9n gi\u1eadn d\u1eef, ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0\u1eddng cho nh\u1eefng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ghen t\u01b0\u01a1ng. Ch\u00fang ta c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng l\u00e0m th\u00f5a l\u00f2ng h\u1ecd b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch nh\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1ecbn. Ch\u00fang ta h\u1ee9a kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n th\u1ea5y ai kh\u00e1c n\u1eefa v\u00e0 s\u1ebd \u00edt \u0111i th\u0103m m\u1eb9 h\u01a1n, nh\u01b0ng nh\u01b0 v\u1eady kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00ec. N\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 t\u1ea1o n\u00ean l\u00f2ng tin r\u1eb1ng n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta b\u1ecb qu\u1edf tr\u00e1ch ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd nh\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1ecbn. Ngo\u00e0i ra, n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng s\u1ea3n xu\u1ea5t m\u1ed9t l\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e2m t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1ee7 n\u01a1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1 c\u00e1o. Ngay c\u1ea3 s\u1ef1 ghen chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i n\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o n\u00ean, v\u00e0 m\u1ed7i chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0m t\u0103ng s\u1ef1 s\u1ee3 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng kh\u00f4ng tr\u00e1nh kh\u1ecfi. Nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u1ea7y c\u1ea7n n\u00ean nh\u1edb khi ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i \u0111\u1ea7u v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ghen: kh\u00f4ng xin l\u1ed7i, kh\u00f4ng l\u00fd lu\u1eadn, kh\u00f4ng thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c, kh\u00f4ng nh\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1ecbn. V\u1eefng ch\u1eafc v\u00e0 l\u00e0m c\u00e1i m\u00ecnh ngh\u0129 \u0111\u00fang. \u0110\u1ea7u h\u00e0ng s\u1ebd gi\u00fap chi\u1ebfn tranh, nh\u01b0ng cho h\u1ecd c\u00e1i h\u1ecd c\u1ea7n: t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 t\u1eadn hi\u1ebfn.<\/p>\n
GHEN M\u1ed8T V\u1ea4N \u0110\u1ec0 T\u00c2M TH\u1ea6N<\/b><\/p>\n
T\u1eeb quan \u0111i\u1ec3m v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n, n\u00f3i chung l\u00e0 kh\u00f3 ch\u1eefa cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eafc ph\u1ea3i b\u1ec7nh ghen. N\u1ebfu h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ec3 xin gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i b\u1ea1n h\u1ecd. H\u1ecd t\u1ed1 c\u00e1o s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t c\u00f4ng v\u00e0 b\u1ea5t ch\u00ednh c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n h\u1ecd. H\u1ecd \u00edt s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ec3 nghe v\u1ec1 ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd. H\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i n\u01a1i b\u1ea1n h\u1ecd ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 h\u1ecd. S\u1ef1 ch\u1eefa tr\u1ecb ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 n\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi ghen th\u00e0nh th\u1eadt mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1.<\/p>\n
M\u1ed9t ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1eefa tr\u1ecb ng\u01b0\u1eddi ghen l\u00e0 t\u1ecf cho h\u1ecd th\u1ea5y c\u00e1i h\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n. G\u1ecdi c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh vi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00e0 ng\u00f4ng cu\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 v\u00f4 ngh\u0129a th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng t\u1ea1o \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p. Nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00e1ch nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf thi\u1ebfu m\u1ea5u ch\u1ed1t ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n. Tr\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u1ea5t, c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd th\u00ec c\u00f3 th\u1eadt. N\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 v\u00f4 ngh\u0129a, nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu v\u00e0 \u0111au x\u00f3t. Th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ebfn, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ghen c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 ghen c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00e0 v\u00f4 l\u00fd. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 gi\u00fap g\u00ec h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng? Tr\u00e1i l\u1ea1i, n\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0m t\u0103ng th\u00eam m\u00e2y m\u00f9 tr\u00ean v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u00f3 th\u1eadt. Kh\u00f4ng ai c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00f4 ngh\u0129a. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta ch\u1ec9 kh\u00f4ng \u00fd th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 \u00fd ngh\u0129a c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n
V\u00ec th\u1ebf, c\u00e1ch ch\u1eefa b\u1ec7nh ghen l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 ch\u1eefa b\u1ec7nh t\u00e2m l\u00fd. Nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n n\u1eb1m b\u00ean d\u01b0\u1edbi c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y tr\u01b0\u1edbc, v\u00e0 b\u1ec7nh nh\u00e2n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd trong c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn to\u00e0n di\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi trong l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. S\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft v\u00e0 th\u1ea5u tri\u1ec7t n\u00e0y m\u00e0 th\u00f4i th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7 v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a ngo\u1ea1i tr\u1eeb n\u00f3 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i, m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 s\u1eefa ch\u1eefa c\u00e1i quan ni\u1ec7m sai l\u1ea7m v\u00e0 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00e1ch, d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 t\u00e1i h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1ecb tr\u00ed x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 tham gia sinh ho\u1ea1t x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i. C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c m\u1eb7c c\u1ea3m ph\u1ea3i b\u1ecb lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf. Thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 th\u00edch th\u00fa sinh ho\u1ea1t x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i c\u1ee7a b\u1ec7nh nh\u00e2n c\u00f3 n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng tr\u00ean kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch c\u1eaft ngh\u0129a sai l\u1ea7m su\u1ed1t th\u1eddi th\u01a1 \u1ea5u ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khu\u1ea5t ph\u1ee5c. Trong c\u00e1ch th\u1ebf \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ec7nh nh\u00e2n ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n s\u1ef1 can \u0111\u1ea3m m\u1edbi v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 tin \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i c\u00e1ch c\u00f3 hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9ng \u0111\u1eafn.<\/p>\n
Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ecb r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ed1ng c\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng n\u00e0o mu\u1ed1n ch\u1eefa h\u1ecd d\u1ea7u h\u1ecd gi\u1ea3 \u0111\u00f2 \u0111i t\u00ecm s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1. S\u1ef1 ghen t\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghi\u1ec7n r\u01b0\u1ee3u kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1eefa tr\u1ecb m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ch\u1eefa h\u1ecd kh\u1ecfi b\u1ec7nh nghi\u1ec7n r\u01b0\u1ee3u tr\u01b0\u1edbc. Ghen t\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00f3 khi l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t tri\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n tr\u1ea7m tr\u1ecdng. \u0110\u00f4i khi n\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng \u00e1m \u1ea3nh tr\u1ea7m tr\u1ecdng thu\u1ed9c nh\u00f3m th\u1ea7n kinh. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y, ch\u1eefa tr\u1ecb r\u1ea5t l\u00e0 kh\u00f3.<\/p>\n
T\u00e1c gi\u1ea3: Lm. L\u00ea V\u0103n Qu\u1ea3ng Psy.D. <\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ghen kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y r\u00f5 m\u00ecnh v\u00ec \u0111\u1ea7y c\u1ea3m x\u00fac. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ghen, kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f3 nh\u1eadn ra nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd. Nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 d\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":7174,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jnews-multi-image_gallery":[],"jnews_single_post":[],"jnews_primary_category":[],"jnews_social_meta":[],"jnews_override_counter":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[46],"tags":[83],"series":[],"class_list":["post-7231","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-doi-song-gia-dinh","tag-lm-phero-le-van-quang"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7231","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7231"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7231\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7174"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7231"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7231"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7231"},{"taxonomy":"series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/series?post=7231"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}