{"id":6936,"date":"2019-10-12T12:48:38","date_gmt":"2019-10-12T05:48:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/?p=6936"},"modified":"2019-10-12T12:48:38","modified_gmt":"2019-10-12T05:48:38","slug":"nhung-van-de-cua-hon-nhan-7","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/nhung-van-de-cua-hon-nhan-7\/","title":{"rendered":"NH\u1eeeNG V\u1ea4N \u0110\u1ec0 C\u1ee6A H\u00d4N NH\u00c2N (7)"},"content":{"rendered":"

T\u00ccM C\u00c1CH GI\u1ea2I QUY\u1ebeT<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>Ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i ch\u00fa tr\u1ecdng: nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi t\u01b0\u1eddng thu\u1eadt n\u00e0y th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft nh\u01b0ng c\u00f3 hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 r\u1ea5t th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta v\u00e0 th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi chung quanh ch\u00fang ta b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch thay \u0111\u1ed5i ch\u00ednh ch\u00fang ta. S\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5. S\u1ef1 th\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn th\u00ec c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 khi s\u1ef1 kh\u1edfi \u0111\u1ea7u n\u01a1i ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn. C\u00f3 qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c v\u00e0 thay \u0111\u1ed5i ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n m\u00ecnh. C\u00f3 bi\u1ebft bao ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u1edbi \u00fd ngh\u0129 s\u1ebd thay \u0111\u1ed5i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n. Trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng chung, ch\u00fang ta \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 thay \u0111\u1ed5i l\u1eabn nhau kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch ch\u00fa tr\u1ecdng tr\u00ean s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n m\u00ecnh. Ch\u1ec9 b\u1eb1ng h\u00e0nh vi c\u1ee7a ri\u00eang ch\u00fang ta, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta c\u00f9ng chung s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec x\u1ea3y ra trong li\u00ean h\u1ec7 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ec1u cho th\u1ea5y t\u01b0\u01a1ng quan c\u1ee7a c\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ed1i ng\u1eabu. Thay v\u00ec \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi chung chung: \u201cN\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n t\u00f4i thay \u0111\u1ed5i, t\u00f4i c\u0169ng vui v\u1ebb thay \u0111\u1ed5i\u201d. Ch\u00fang ta n\u00ean nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt n\u00e0y l\u00e0: \u201cN\u1ebfu t\u00f4i thay \u0111\u1ed5i h\u00e0nh vi th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c l\u1ed1i x\u1eed s\u1ef1 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd\u201d. Ngay c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng thay \u0111\u1ed5i nho nh\u1ecf trong th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y c\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u1ea3n \u1ea3nh ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c trong th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia. Kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00e1ng k\u1ec3 c\u1ee7a t\u01b0\u01a1ng giao h\u00e0i h\u00f2a.<\/p>\n

Th\u1eadt b\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh cho ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta bi\u1ebft nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ec1 c\u00e1ch th\u1ebf \u0111\u1ec3 giao chi\u1ebfn nhau, \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ebft h\u1ea1i nhau, \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e2m ch\u00e9m nhau h\u01a1n l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch th\u1ebf \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m vui l\u00f2ng nhau, \u0111\u1ec3 y\u00eau nhau, \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m th\u00f4ng tha th\u1ee9, hay \u0111\u1ec3 mang l\u1ea1i h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac cho nhau. V\u00ec th\u1ebf, ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng trong vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00e2m ch\u00e9m nhau h\u01a1n l\u00e0 \u0111i t\u00ecm h\u00f2a b\u00ecnh. Ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1ed1n ph\u00ed qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u th\u00ec gi\u1edd v\u00e0 ti\u1ec1n b\u1ea1c \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm nh\u1eefng m\u00e1nh kho\u00e9, nh\u1eefng m\u01b0u m\u00f4, nh\u1eefng th\u1ee7 \u0111o\u1ea1n b\u1ea5t ch\u00ednh \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m h\u1ea1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 khi cu\u1ed9c chi\u1ebfn \u0111\u00e3 b\u00f9ng n\u1ed5. Trong m\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u01a1ng quan v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u0169ng v\u1eady, ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c chi\u1ebfn c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng tranh ch\u1ea5p \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng x\u1ea3y ra trong qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9, n\u00ean r\u1ea5t c\u1ea7n c\u00f3 th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 thi\u1ebft l\u1eadp l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t b\u1ea7u kh\u00ed k\u00ednh tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng nhau.<\/p>\n

N\u00ean bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n x\u1ea5u hay ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n t\u1ed1t c\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e2u. C\u00e1i kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ed1t hay x\u1ea5u \u0111\u1ec1u hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu trong m\u1ed7i con ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta. Ch\u00ednh ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho c\u00e1i t\u1ed1t ho\u1eb7c c\u00e1i x\u1ea5u c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n m\u00ecnh ch\u1ed5i d\u1eady. Nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecd bi\u1ebft g\u00ec v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh?<\/p>\n

D\u1eabu cho h\u1ecd s\u1ed1ng chung v\u1edbi nhau trong c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t c\u0103n ph\u00f2ng, \u0103n c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t b\u00e0n, ng\u1ee7 c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t gi\u01b0\u1eddng, nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecd bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 nhau \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bao nhi\u00eau? C\u1ee9 s\u1ef1 th\u01b0\u1eddng, h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng th\u00f3i x\u1ea5u c\u1ee7a nhau nh\u01b0 th\u00edch n\u1eafm quy\u1ec1n, th\u00edch ph\u00e0n n\u00e0n, th\u00edch ti\u00eau ti\u1ec1n, th\u00edch r\u01b0\u1ee3u ch\u00e8, kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c. Nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n n\u00e0o \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m cho b\u1ea1n m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 s\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. V\u00e0 m\u1ed9t khi h\u1ecd th\u1ea5y ch\u00e1n ch\u01b0\u1eddng, h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 mu\u1ed1n lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee9ng b\u1ec7nh \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n th\u00f5a \u0111\u00e1ng nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u t\u00e2m linh c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft gi\u1eefa h\u1ecd v\u1edbi nhau. Tuy nhi\u00ean, khi hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 d\u1ecbp s\u1ed1ng xa c\u00e1ch nhau th\u00ec l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 d\u1ecbp h\u1ecd s\u1ebd hi\u1ec3u nhau nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n l\u00fac tr\u01b0\u1edbc. Ch\u00ednh nh\u1eefng tranh quy\u1ec1n tranh l\u1ee3i \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m cho \u0111\u1ea7u \u00f3c h\u1ecd ra t\u1ed1i t\u0103m. M\u1ed7i khi \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho nhau, h\u1ecd c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng b\u00e0o ch\u1eefa nh\u1eefng sai l\u1ea7m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

Ch\u00ednh vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng quy\u1ec1n l\u1ee3i c\u0103n b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m cho h\u1ecd c\u1ee9 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c tranh \u0111\u1ea5u cho quy\u1ec1n l\u1ee3i c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a ri\u00eang m\u00ecnh. \u0110i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 h\u1ecd n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c th\u00ec th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 \u0111\u00fang, d\u1ea7u nh\u1eefng t\u01b0\u1eddng thu\u1eadt gi\u1eefa h\u1ecd xem ra l\u00e0 m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn v\u1edbi nhau. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ai sai ai \u0111\u00fang, v\u00ec m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u00fang d\u01b0\u1edbi c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn c\u1ee7a ri\u00eang m\u00ecnh nh\u01b0ng sai d\u01b0\u1edbi c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng. N\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta y\u00eau m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng h\u1ecfi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00fang hay sai. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta th\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00f3i \u201cy\u00eau l\u00e0 m\u00f9 qu\u00e1ng\u201d. Nh\u01b0ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5t thi\u1ebft m\u00f9 qu\u00e1ng. Ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00f3i \u201canh y\u00eau em d\u1eabu em c\u00f3 b\u1ea5t to\u00e0n\u201d, anh y\u00eau em v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn em nh\u01b0 em hi\u1ec7n l\u00e0. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 d\u1eabu em \u0111\u1eb9p hay em kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1eb9p, em t\u1ed1t hay em x\u1ea5u, anh v\u1eabn y\u00eau em. Nh\u01b0ng sau \u0111\u00f3, khi quy\u1ec1n l\u1ee3i c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta b\u1ecb \u0111e d\u1ecda, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nhau nh\u01b0 tr\u01b0\u1edbc n\u1eefa. Tr\u00e1i l\u1ea1i, \u0111\u1ec3 tranh \u0111\u1ea5u cho \u01b0u th\u1ebf c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta, ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111i t\u00ecm nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m n\u01a1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n ch\u00fang ta v\u00e0 d\u00f9ng ch\u00fang nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t s\u1ef1 c\u1ed9ng t\u00e1c c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. H\u00e3y nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta, c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi sai hay \u0111\u00fang kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng, nh\u01b0ng bi\u1ebft ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn c\u00e1i x\u1ea5u c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 c\u00e1i t\u1ed1t c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u1edbi l\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng.<\/p>\n

Ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n nh\u1edb r\u00f5 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 khi c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd ki\u1ebfn ho\u1eb7c s\u1ef1 ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n \u0111e d\u1ecda \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. B\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n tr\u01b0\u1edbc ti\u00ean cho m\u1ecdi cu\u1ed9c th\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn l\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng hi\u1ec7n \u0111ang c\u00f3. C\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch can \u0111\u1ea3m l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n thi\u1ebft y\u1ebfu c\u1ea7n c\u00f3 tr\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t l\u1ed1i tho\u00e1t cho v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111ang g\u1eb7p ph\u1ea3i. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 d\u0129 nhi\u00ean kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 d\u1ec5. Nh\u01b0ng ch\u1ea1y tr\u1ed1n th\u1ef1c t\u1ea1i th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch th\u1ebf th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0o \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch th\u1ebf \u0111\u00f3. M\u1ed9t khi ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta \u0111ang \u0111i \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng. Sau khi lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u1ea3o gi\u00e1c cho r\u1eb1ng ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1c giao chi\u1ebfn v\u00e0 \u00e1p l\u1ef1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, khu\u1ea5t ph\u1ee5c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p trong con ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta, v\u00e0 nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u0169ng \u0111au kh\u1ed5 nh\u01b0 ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 t\u00ecm ra nh\u1eefng gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft. Tuy ch\u1eadm v\u00e0 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch h\u1ee3p \u1edf l\u00fac \u0111\u1ea7u, nh\u01b0ng v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 can \u0111\u1ea3m gia t\u0103ng, ch\u00ednh s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 tin s\u1ebd l\u00e0m ch\u00fang ta \u00edt b\u1ecb th\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ed5n v\u00e0 gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

M\u1eabu chuy\u1ec7n sau \u0111\u00e2y s\u1ebd gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 \u00edt nhi\u1ec1u kinh nghi\u1ec7m trong vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ed1i \u0111\u1ea7u v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng l\u1ee7ng c\u1ee7ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Nh\u1eefng l\u1ee7ng c\u1ee7ng \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf ho\u1eb7c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng n\u1ebfu c\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ed1i ng\u1eabu hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c s\u00e2u xa \u0111ang ti\u1ec1m \u1ea9n \u0111\u00e0ng sau nh\u1eefng bi\u1ebfn ch\u1ee9ng \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra. M\u1ed9t khi h\u1ecd nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n \u0111\u00f3, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n gi\u1eadn d\u1eef v\u00e0 l\u00ean \u00e1n nhau n\u1eefa. Tr\u00e1i l\u1ea1i, h\u1ecd c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng \u0111i t\u00ecm nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch th\u1ebf \u0111\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p.<\/p>\n

Ch\u1ecb Nguy\u1ec5n th\u1ecb Kim Dung l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 tr\u1ebb trung, th\u00f9y m\u1ef5, v\u00e0 d\u1ec5 th\u01b0\u01a1ng. Ch\u1ecb c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 xem ra kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec quan tr\u1ecdng, nh\u01b0ng \u0111ang \u0111e d\u1ecda \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a ch\u1ecb. Ch\u1ecb l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t n\u0103m v\u00e0 xem ra r\u1ea5t h\u00f2a h\u1ee3p trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 tr\u00ean b\u00ecnh di\u1ec7n x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i. N\u00f3i chung, v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng ch\u1ecb s\u1ed1ng vui v\u1ebb v\u1edbi nhau ngo\u1ea1i tr\u1eeb m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 b\u1ea5t \u1ed5n d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m cho cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd m\u1ea5t \u0111i h\u00f2a kh\u00ed v\u00e0 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh n\u1eb7ng n\u1ec1.<\/p>\n

Ch\u1ecb ta cho bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng d\u1ea7u ch\u1ecb \u0111\u00e3 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c, ch\u1ecb c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m c\u00e1ch n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ed3ng ch\u1ecb trao ti\u1ec1n cho ch\u1ecb mua th\u1ee9c \u0103n c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 trang tr\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng chi ph\u00ed kh\u00e1c \u0111\u00fang th\u1eddi gian. Ch\u1ecb ta c\u1ee9 ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecfi ti\u1ec1n m\u1ed7i tu\u1ea7n nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n. N\u1ebfu ch\u1ecb ta kh\u00f4ng h\u1ecfi, anh ta qu\u00ean \u0111\u01b0a ti\u1ec1n cho ch\u1ecb cho t\u1edbi khi tu\u1ea7n \u0111\u00f3 qua \u0111i. Ch\u1ecb c\u00f3 \u0111em chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u00f3 ra n\u00f3i v\u1edbi anh ta, r\u1ed3i c\u00f2n n\u0103n n\u1ec9 v\u00e0 h\u0103m d\u1ecda anh ta n\u1eefa, nh\u01b0ng t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ec1u v\u00f4 \u00edch. H\u1ecd c\u00e0ng g\u00e2y l\u1ed9n v\u1edbi nhau th\u00ec anh ta c\u00e0ng \u00edt \u0111\u01b0a ti\u1ec1n cho ch\u1ecb. V\u1eady ch\u1ecb ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00ec? B\u00e2y gi\u1edd th\u00ec anh ta b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1ed1 c\u00e1o ch\u1ecb ti\u00eau ti\u1ec1n qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u. Ch\u1ecb ta ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh chi\u1ebfn tranh b\u00f9ng n\u1ed5?<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3nh kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n c\u1ee7a ch\u1ecb. Ch\u1ecb kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 n\u00e0o d\u1ef1 tr\u00f9 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u00e2n s\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a ch\u1ecb ngay c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng b\u1eefa \u0103n. Ch\u1ecb ta ph\u1ea3i \u0111i m\u01b0\u1ee3n ti\u1ec1n, ph\u1ea3i \u0111i vay n\u1ee3, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 chi r\u1ea5t gh\u00e9t. Nh\u01b0ng ch\u1ecb ta c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec kh\u00e1c h\u01a1n l\u00e0 n\u0103n n\u1ec9 hay \u0111e d\u1ecda.<\/p>\n

Th\u1eadt r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng l\u00e0 th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 phi l\u00fd c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng xem ra l\u00e0 k\u1ef3 c\u1ee5c n\u1ebfu ch\u1ec9 nh\u00ecn tr\u00ean b\u00ecnh di\u1ec7n l\u00fd tr\u00ed. Anh ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 l\u00fd do ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u1ec3 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf. Nh\u01b0ng t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 kh\u00e1c h\u1eb3n n\u1ebfu \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u00ecn d\u01b0\u1edbi nh\u00e3n quan t\u00e2m l\u00fd. Anh ta y\u00eau v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 hy sinh cho v\u1ee3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ebfn n\u1ed7i ch\u1ecb ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c anh ta l\u00e0m b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec ch\u1ecb ta mu\u1ed1n. Ch\u1ecb \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf, ngo\u1ea1i tr\u1eeb trong v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y, b\u1edfi l\u1ebd ch\u1ec9 c\u00f2n m\u1ed9t l\u00e3nh v\u1ef1c duy nh\u1ea5t m\u00e0 anh ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f2n gi\u1eef \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c uy th\u1ebf, c\u00f2n gi\u1eef \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ebf th\u01b0\u1ee3ng phong, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 vai tr\u00f2 cung c\u1ea5p. Anh ta mu\u1ed1n l\u1ee3i d\u1ee5ng vai tr\u00f2 n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1eef \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c uy quy\u1ec1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh tr\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3, nh\u01b0ng anh ta ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00f4ng \u00fd th\u1ee9c g\u00ec v\u1ec1 chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u00f3. Anh mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ecfi v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xin. N\u1ebfu anh ta trao cho ch\u1ecb s\u1ed1 ti\u1ec1n ngay v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ea7u tu\u1ea7n, uy quy\u1ec1n c\u1ee7a anh s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n. Nh\u01b0ng anh ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 c\u1eaft ngh\u0129a \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 cho ch\u1ecb ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00ec anh ta ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n v\u00f4 \u00fd th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y. Anh ta ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n v\u00f4 th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. V\u00ec th\u1ebf, khi ch\u1ecb ta t\u1ed1 c\u00e1o anh, anh ta ph\u1ea3i \u0111i t\u00ecm nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do loanh quanh \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1eaft ngh\u0129a. Nh\u01b0ng nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do loanh quanh \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0m cho ch\u1ecb ta th\u00eam t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn m\u00e0 th\u00f4i. Do \u0111\u00f3, h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u1ed7 b\u1ebf t\u1eafc trong cu\u1ed9c chi\u1ebfn tranh l\u1ea1nh v\u00e0 c\u0169ng r\u1ea5t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u1ed7 tan v\u1ee1.<\/p>\n

Sau khi gi\u00fap chi ta hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao ch\u1ed3ng ch\u1ecb \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf, ch\u1ecb ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn n\u1eefa. Ch\u1ecb \u0111\u00e3 t\u00ecm ra c\u00e1ch th\u1ebf d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a ch\u1ecb. Tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft, ch\u1ecb ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu n\u1eefa, nh\u01b0ng r\u1ea5t vui v\u1ebb h\u1ecfi anh ta \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u1ecb c\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ebfn. Th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ebfn, ch\u1ecb mu\u1ed1n anh ta c\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vui v\u1ebb. V\u00e0 n\u1ebfu \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch l\u00e0m cho anh ta vui v\u1ebb, t\u1ea1i sao ch\u1ecb l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m? Ch\u1ecb c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t tr\u0103m \u0111\u00f4 la nh\u01b0 ch\u1ec9 l\u1ea5y hai m\u01b0\u01a1i \u0111\u00f4 la n\u1ebfu ch\u1ecb ch\u1ecbu h\u1ecfi anh ta nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n. Qu\u1ea3 th\u1eadt, anh ta r\u1ea5t r\u1ed9ng r\u00e3i v\u1edbi ch\u1ecb. V\u00ec th\u1ebf, sau \u0111\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n ch\u1ecb ta \u0111\u00e3 l\u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eefng m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i tr\u0103m m\u00e0 ngay c\u1ea3 m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i ng\u00e0n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ec3 chi trong nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i.<\/p>\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 ch\u1ecb ta h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1eeb kinh nghi\u1ec7m n\u00e0y l\u00e0: l\u00e0m m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i g\u00ec kh\u00e1c h\u01a1n l\u00e0 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 ti\u1ec1n b\u1ea1c. Ch\u1ecb \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 ra r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1i nguy hi\u1ec3m th\u1eadt c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd n\u1eb1m trong ch\u1ed7 tranh ch\u1ea5p quy\u1ec1n h\u00e0nh l\u1eabn nhau, v\u00e0 r\u1eb1ng anh ta th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 s\u1ee3 ch\u1ecb n\u1eafm quy\u1ec1n tr\u00ean anh ta. Nh\u1edd t\u00e2m l\u00fd, ch\u1ecb ta \u0111\u00e3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1i g\u00ec l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c s\u00e2u xa, \u0111\u00e2u l\u00e0 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao \u0111\u00e3 khi\u1ebfn anh ta h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng nh\u01b0 v\u1eady? Sau khi \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, ch\u1ecb \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a ch\u1ecb m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng v\u00e0 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng.<\/p>\n

Lm. L\u00ea v\u0103n Qu\u1ea3ng.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng chung, ch\u00fang ta \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 thay \u0111\u1ed5i l\u1eabn nhau kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch ch\u00fa tr\u1ecdng tr\u00ean s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n m\u00ecnh. Ch\u1ec9 b\u1eb1ng h\u00e0nh vi c\u1ee7a ri\u00eang ch\u00fang ta, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta c\u00f9ng chung s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":6937,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jnews-multi-image_gallery":[],"jnews_single_post":[],"jnews_primary_category":[],"jnews_social_meta":[],"jnews_override_counter":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[46],"tags":[83],"series":[],"class_list":["post-6936","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-doi-song-gia-dinh","tag-lm-phero-le-van-quang"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6936","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6936"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6936\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6937"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6936"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6936"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6936"},{"taxonomy":"series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/series?post=6936"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}