{"id":6626,"date":"2019-09-07T10:03:00","date_gmt":"2019-09-07T03:03:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/?p=6626"},"modified":"2019-09-07T10:03:00","modified_gmt":"2019-09-07T03:03:00","slug":"nhung-van-de-cua-hon-nhan-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/nhung-van-de-cua-hon-nhan-2\/","title":{"rendered":"NH\u1eeeNG V\u1ea4N \u0110\u1ec0 C\u1ee6A H\u00d4N NH\u00c2N (2)"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>N\u1ec0N T\u1ea2NG C\u1ee6A NH\u1eeeNG XUNG KH\u1eaeC H\u00d4N NH\u00c2N<\/strong><\/p>\n

T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i c\u1ee7a th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea1i ch\u00fang ta. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao, nh\u01b0 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 l\u01b0u \u00fd, nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0n, h\u00e0ng v\u1ea1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec1u gi\u1ed1ng nhau. Nh\u1eefng m\u1eabu xung \u0111\u1ed9t gi\u1eefa v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng ph\u1ea3n \u1ea3nh \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ee7a v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 chung m\u00e0 nh\u00e2n lo\u1ea1i ng\u00e0y h\u00f4m nay \u0111ang \u0111\u1ed1i \u0111\u1ea7u: kinh t\u1ebf b\u1ea5t \u1ed5n, s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 d\u1ee5ng m\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, ch\u00ednh tr\u1ecb, kinh t\u1ebf c\u1ee7a th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea1i ch\u00fang ta, s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu v\u1eefng ch\u1eafc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00e2y n\u00ean b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng thay \u0111\u1ed5i s\u00e2u xa v\u1ec1 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c lu\u00e2n l\u00fd, s\u1ef1 chia r\u1ebb c\u1ee7a x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng \u0111\u01a1n v\u1ecb nh\u1ecf m\u00e0 m\u1ed7i \u0111\u01a1n v\u1ecb lo \u0111i t\u00ecm l\u1ee3i \u00edch cho ri\u00eang m\u00ecnh, s\u1ef1 nghi ng\u1edd nhau \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00e2y n\u00ean b\u1edfi s\u1ef1 tranh gi\u00e0nh v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecd s\u1ee9c nhau, v\u00e0 tr\u00ean h\u1ebft l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 tranh \u0111\u1ea5u cho s\u1ef1 \u01b0u th\u1ebf c\u1ee7a nam v\u00e0 n\u1eef. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 mang l\u1ea1i chi\u1ec1u s\u00e2u v\u00e0 \u00fd ngh\u0129a cho nh\u1eefng tranh lu\u1eadn v\u00f4 ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng quan tr\u1ecdng. Bi\u1ebft nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 n\u00e0y gi\u00fap \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u00fat \u00edt trong vi\u1ec7c khu\u1ea5t ph\u1ee5c nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh th\u1ebf kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 v\u1ee3. \u0110\u1ec3 h\u1eefu \u00edch, ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng. Kh\u00f4ng may, ch\u1ec9 l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean v\u1ec1 k\u1ef7 thu\u1eadt th\u00ec c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n v\u00ec th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u00e0ng sau b\u1ed1i c\u1ea3nh. Hi\u1ec3u v\u1ec1 ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 nh\u1eefng b\u1ed9 m\u1eb7t li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn b\u1ea3n t\u00ednh con ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd mang l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u00edch h\u1eefu hi\u1ec7u m\u00e0 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y trong c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u00f3 v\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00e3 k\u1ebft h\u00f4n.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea4T T\u01af\u01a0NG X\u1ee8NG V\u1ec0 T\u00cdNH D\u1ee4C<\/strong><\/p>\n

Trong khi th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn \u0111\u00e2u l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng tr\u1edf ng\u1ea1i cho h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y m\u1edf m\u1eaft xem nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng xung kh\u1eafc c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1eb1m s\u00e2u xa b\u00ean d\u01b0\u1edbi. S\u1ef1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u1ee3p v\u1ec1 t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xem l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng c\u0103n b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, v\u00ec h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 lu\u1eadt thi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u1ee3p l\u00fd \u0111\u1ec3 cung c\u1ea5p cho s\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n v\u1ec1 t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c. S\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n h\u1ed7 t\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ec1 t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c l\u00e0 lu\u1eadt tr\u1eeb h\u01a1n l\u00e0 qui lu\u1eadt trong nh\u1eefng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea1i ch\u00fang ta. V\u00ec s\u1ef1 r\u1ea5t th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f4ng th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n v\u1ec1 t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c tr\u1edf n\u00ean qu\u00e1 r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng n\u00ean nhi\u1ec1u s\u00e1ch \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap th\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn v\u1ec1 li\u00ean h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Nhi\u1ec1u cu\u1ed1n \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n trong vi\u1ec7c h\u00e0i h\u00f2a t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c gi\u1eefa nam v\u00e0 n\u1eef, v\u00e0 l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 kh\u1eafc ph\u1ee5c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng tr\u1edf ng\u1ea1i \u0111\u00f3. Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00e1t v\u1ecdng lo\u1ea1i v\u0103n ch\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y, hy v\u1ecdng nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi cho nh\u1eefng kh\u00e1t v\u1ecdng mong th\u00f5a m\u00e3n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft \u0111\u00f3. Nhi\u1ec1u c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e3 t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch \u0111\u00f3. Nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u1ea5y l\u00e0m l\u1ea1: c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i c\u00e1i k\u00fd k\u1ebft m\u1edbi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u1ec1 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean v\u1ec1 k\u1ef7 thu\u1eadt hay t\u1eeb th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 m\u1edbi c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u1ed1i k\u1ebft l\u1ea1i b\u1edfi s\u1ef1 t\u00f2 m\u00f2 v\u00e0 m\u1ea1o hi\u1ec3m mu\u1ed1n chia x\u1ebb c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m chung. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 chia x\u1ebb n\u00e0y s\u1ebd mang l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 h\u1ee3p nh\u1ea5t s\u00e2u xa h\u01a1n, l\u00e2u d\u00e0i h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch v\u00e0 l\u1ee3i \u00edch h\u01a1n l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec7p nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c thi\u1ebft l\u1eadp b\u1edfi \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 k\u1ef7 thu\u1eadt m\u00e0 th\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 l\u00e2u d\u00e0i c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 c\u1ee9u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 h\u1ee3p nh\u1ea5t ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng xu\u1ed1ng c\u1ea5p.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2u b\u1ea5t t\u01b0\u01a1ng x\u1ee9ng trong t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00f9ng v\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1ecb l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t c\u1edb \u0111\u1ec3 che d\u1ea5u s\u1ef1 kh\u01b0\u1edbc t\u1eeb. M\u1ed7i c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n b\u1ecb l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n v\u1ec1 t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c b\u1edfi m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i n\u00e9t n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ph\u00e1i h\u01a1n l\u00e0 b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Nh\u1eefng kinh nghi\u1ec7m tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n gi\u00fap h\u1ecd ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a nh\u1eefng s\u1edf th\u00edch c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Khi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh b\u1ecb l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n b\u1edfi m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, s\u1ef1 th\u00edch th\u00fa nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i l\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng trong su\u1ed1t ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh ve v\u00e3n. Sau khi \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi, nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 kh\u00e1c \u0111i\u1ec1u khi\u1ec3n li\u00ean h\u1ec7 ph\u00e1i t\u00ednh. C\u00f3 lo\u1ea1i c\u1eed ch\u1ec9 \u00e1i \u00e2n m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau chu\u1ed9ng nh\u1ea5t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng bao l\u00e2u l\u1ea1i m\u1ea5t \u0111i s\u1ef1 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn. Ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 l\u01b0u \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p trong \u0111\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng l\u1ea1i t\u00e1i kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 ra ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ee9c h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn v\u1ec1 t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c cho d\u1eabu \u00f4ng \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecb thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c r\u1eb1ng n\u00e0ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd k\u00edch th\u00edch \u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u1eefa. Thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 th\u00edch th\u00fa v\u1ec1 t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c n\u00f3i chung, thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 k\u00edch th\u00edch, s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng hay l\u1ea1nh c\u1ea3m, nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t t\u01b0\u01a1ng x\u1ee9ng v\u1ec1 t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c nh\u01b0ng l\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng xung kh\u1eafc c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n. Ch\u00fang ph\u1ea3n \u1ea3nh nh\u1eefng th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 \u0111\u1ed1i ngh\u1ecbch nhau gi\u1eefa v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng, nh\u1eefng th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 n\u00e0y \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ch\u1ec9 d\u1ea1y v\u1ec1 k\u1ef7 thu\u1eadt n\u00e0o to\u00e0n h\u1ea3o, m\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 do hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1ebfu y\u00eau nhau ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 ra v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u1eef \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u00e3i s\u1ef1 l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn nhau v\u1ec1 chuy\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh \u00e1i.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng nh\u00e0 theo ch\u1ee7 ngh\u0129a v\u1eadt ch\u1ea5t \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 qu\u00e1 cao s\u1ef1 quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a qui lu\u1eadt t\u00ecnh \u00e1i v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u00f5a m\u00e3n tr\u00f2n \u0111\u1ea7y c\u1ee7a n\u00f3. H\u1ecd tin v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 an b\u00e0i t\u1eeb tr\u01b0\u1edbc v\u1ec1 t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c v\u00e0 tin v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng tri\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ec3 ngu\u1ed3n kh\u00e1t v\u1ecdng \u0111\u00f3. Nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y xem nh\u1eefng kinh nghi\u1ec7m x\u1ea3y ra. R\u1ea5t th\u01b0\u1eddng, \u0111\u00eam t\u00e2n h\u00f4n l\u00e0 \u0111\u00eam th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1nh d\u1ea5u s\u1ef1 kh\u1edfi \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c t\u1ea1i h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. C\u00f4 d\u00e2u v\u00e0 ch\u00fa r\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n h\u1ed7 t\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 sau \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng h\u1ecdc hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft, c\u1ea3m th\u00f4ng nhau h\u01a1n. Qui lu\u1eadt t\u00ecnh \u00e1i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd th\u00ec qu\u00e1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t. H\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh b\u1ecb \u0111\u1ed1t ch\u00e1y b\u1edfi \u0111am m\u00ea, l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n v\u00e0o m\u00ea h\u1ed3n tr\u1eadn, v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 sau m\u1ed9t l\u00fac th\u00ec ng\u1ecdn l\u1eeda t\u00e0n \u0111i. Kh\u00e1t v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tho\u1ea3 m\u00e3n. H\u1ecd \u0111i t\u00ecm k\u00edch th\u00edch m\u1edbi, m\u1ea1o hi\u1ec3m m\u1edbi, kinh nghi\u1ec7m m\u1edbi. Ngay trong nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng h\u01a1n, nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi tin r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 k\u00edch th\u00edch kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m s\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i th\u00f3i quen h\u1eb1ng ng\u00e0y, r\u1eb1ng kinh nghi\u1ec7m m\u1edbi th\u00ec c\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m n\u00f3ng b\u1ecfng d\u1ee5c v\u1ecdng, v\u00e0 r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 c\u0169 k\u1ef9 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec m\u1edbi m\u1ebb, s\u1ebd l\u00e0m ch\u1ebft kho\u00e1i c\u1ea3m. H\u00e0ng tri\u1ec7u ng\u01b0\u1eddi tin v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u1ee3p b\u1ea9m sinh v\u1ec1 t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u1ee5 h\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean v\u1ec1 d\u1ee5c v\u1ecdng, v\u00ec kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd xem ra ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi ni\u1ec1m tin nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 nh\u00ecn s\u00e2u xa h\u01a1n v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m nghi\u1ec7m \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

S\u1ef0 TH\u1eceA M\u00c3N \u0110\u00d2I H\u1eceI S\u1ef0 TH\u00cdCH \u1ee8NG L\u1eaaN NHAU<\/strong><\/p>\n

Khi hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111i v\u00e0o li\u00ean h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh \u00e1i, m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi mang v\u00e0o c\u00e1 t\u00ednh c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 nh\u1eefng kinh nghi\u1ec7m qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9, v\u00e0 d\u0129 nhi\u00ean to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ecd. Ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u qu\u00e1 l\u1ea1 l\u00f9ng n\u1ebfu h\u1ecd ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi nhau. Chuy\u1ec7n \u00e2n \u00e1i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ngh\u1ec7 thu\u1eadt, m\u00e0 ngh\u1ec7 thu\u1eadt th\u00ec c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n b\u1edfi s\u1ef1 hu\u1ea5n luy\u1ec7n nh\u01b0 m\u1ecdi ngh\u1ec7 thu\u1eadt kh\u00e1c. C\u00e0ng l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng h\u1ecda s\u0129 kh\u00e1, h\u1ecd c\u00e0ng ph\u1ea3i ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p nhau h\u01a1n. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft ngh\u1ec7 thu\u1eadt ch\u00fat n\u00e0o, v\u00e0 ngay d\u1ea7u h\u1ecd kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t trong th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 l\u00fac \u0111\u1ea7u, h\u1ecd c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi v\u1edbi nhau. M\u1ed7i li\u00ean h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh \u00e1i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh th\u00edch nghi l\u1eabn nhau.<\/p>\n

Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u01b0\u1eddng thu\u1eadt m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t m\u00e0 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi g\u1eb7p th\u1ea5y n\u01a1i nhau. M\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng ho\u1eb7c th\u1ee5 \u0111\u1ed9ng, ph\u1ee5c t\u00f9ng hay ch\u1ec9 huy, h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn hay t\u00f2ng theo. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 hung h\u0103ng hay nh\u1eabn n\u1ea1i nh\u1ecbn nh\u1ee5c, nh\u1ea1y c\u1ea3m hay man r\u1ee3, \u00edch k\u1ef7 hay quan t\u00e2m. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng b\u1ea3n t\u00ednh n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bi\u1ec3u l\u1ed9 trong khi l\u00e0m chuy\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh \u00e1i. Trong m\u1ed9t \u00edt t\u1eadp qu\u00e1n, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng thu\u1eadn t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean, m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 h\u00e0i h\u00f2a h\u1ed7 t\u01b0\u01a1ng. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 mong \u0111\u1ee3i \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 trong m\u1ecdi th\u00f3i quen v\u00e0 m\u1ecdi h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n kh\u00f4ng? H\u1ecd bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 nhau qu\u00e1 \u00edt tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi h\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n h\u00f2a tan trong nhau v\u00e0 v\u00ec th\u1ebf h\u1ecd th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng qu\u00e1 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng. H\u01a1n n\u1eefa, h\u1ecd th\u1ea5y n\u01a1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. \u0110i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1ea3i qua, \u0111\u00e3 th\u00edch, \u0111\u00e3 m\u01a1 ch\u1ee3t xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n trong l\u00fac h\u1ecd c\u00f9ng nhau n\u00ean m\u1ed9t. H\u00e0ng tr\u0103m ng\u01b0\u1eddi g\u1eb7p nhau trong m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00f4i v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng.<\/p>\n

Nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng tham d\u1ef1 vi\u00ean c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 h\u1ecd th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng n\u1ebfu \u0111\u00e1m \u0111\u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi h\u1ecd. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho v\u00e0 nh\u1eadn, nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau, nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh c\u1ee7a b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9, anh ch\u1ecb, b\u1ed3 b\u1ecbch, t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ec1u t\u1eadp trung n\u01a1i m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta th\u1ea5y y\u00eau. Ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t con ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1eadt, nh\u01b0ng l\u00e0 bi\u1ec3u t\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a c\u00e1i ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 y\u00eau v\u00e0 c\u00e1i ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 mong \u0111\u1ee3i. N\u1ebfu m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng thu\u1eadn l\u1ee3i v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1ed1ng ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi y\u00eau c\u1ea7u, ch\u00fang ta s\u1edbm mu\u1ed9n r\u1ed3i c\u0169ng t\u1ec9nh gi\u1ea5c m\u1ed9ng. B\u1ea5y gi\u1edd ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecdc nh\u1eadn ra ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n ch\u00fang ta v\u00e0 y\u00eau ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00f3. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta y\u00eau h\u1ecd v\u00ec c\u00e1i m\u00e0 n\u00f3 bi\u1ec3u t\u01b0\u1ee3ng trong \u0111\u1ea7u ch\u00fang ta, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n v\u00e0 r\u00fat lui. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i n\u1ebfu kinh nghi\u1ec7m m\u1edbi th\u00ec m\u1ea1nh \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec3 chinh ph\u1ee5c qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 v\u00e0 m\u1edf m\u1ed9t ch\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u1edbi v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi v\u00e0 mong \u0111\u1ee3i c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. N\u1ebfu nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng th\u00edch \u1ee9ng h\u1ed7 t\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft, s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng v\u1ec1 li\u00ean h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh \u00e1i v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a gia t\u0103ng \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng nhi\u00ean.<\/p>\n

Anh ch\u1ecb Nguy\u1ec5n \u0111\u1ebfn g\u1eb7p b\u00e1c s\u0129 t\u00e2m l\u00fd li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n trong vi\u1ec7c ch\u0103n g\u1ed1i. H\u1ecd t\u1eadn hi\u1ebfn cho nhau. Tinh th\u1ea7n c\u1ed9ng t\u00e1c gi\u00fap h\u1ecd hi\u1ec3u nhau v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd trong vi\u1ec7c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng chung c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Nh\u01b0ng v\u1ec1 chuy\u1ec7n ch\u0103n g\u1ed1i h\u1ecd ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n h\u1eedng h\u1edd v\u1edbi nhau v\u00e0 b\u00e2y gi\u1edd \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u1ed7 h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n th\u00edch nhau ch\u00fat n\u00e0o n\u1eefa. Y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 quan tr\u1ecdng trong s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t trong vi\u1ec7c hu\u1ea5n luy\u1ec7n c\u1ea3m x\u00fac. Ch\u1ecb Nguy\u1ec5n l\u00e0 con m\u1ed9t c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 r\u1ea5t t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 l\u1edbn l\u00ean trong b\u1ea7u kh\u00ed d\u1ecbu d\u00e0ng v\u00e0 t\u1eadn hi\u1ebfn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bi\u1ec3u l\u1ed9 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch c\u1edfi m\u1edf. Tuy nhi\u00ean, anh Nguy\u1ec5n \u0111\u00e3 xa gia \u0111\u00ecnh khi m\u1edbi 13 tu\u1ed5i, \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh sinh s\u1ed1ng t\u1eeb l\u00fac \u0111\u00f3, v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1ea3i qua tu\u1ed5i tr\u1ebb nay \u0111\u00e2y mai \u0111\u00f3. Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng anh mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u01b0, c\u00f3 nh\u00e0, v\u00e0 c\u00f3 gia \u0111\u00ecnh. Ch\u1ecb Nguy\u1ec5n g\u00e2y cho anh ta m\u1ed9t \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 t\u1eadn hi\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 anh ta \u0111\u00e3 y\u00eau c\u00f4. C\u00f4 n\u00e0ng c\u0169ng y\u00eau ch\u00e0ng v\u00ec anh ch\u00e0ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ee9ng r\u1eafn h\u1ee9a h\u1eb9n cho n\u00e0ng m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 v\u00e0 \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. C\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 l\u00fd theo c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn mong \u0111\u1ee3i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, nh\u01b0ng v\u1eabn c\u00f2n thi\u1ebfu m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3. C\u00f4 ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n trong vi\u1ec7c vu\u1ed1t ve m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng g\u1ee3i l\u00ean m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 ham mu\u1ed1n t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c n\u01a1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng. Anh ta t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi c\u1ee7a n\u00e0ng ch\u1ec9 mu\u1ed1n g\u1ea7n ch\u00e0ng, mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u00f4n v\u00e0 vu\u1ed1t ve, v\u00e0 n\u00e0ng gi\u1eadn d\u1eef quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c qu\u00e1 \u0111\u00e1ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi n\u00e0ng. Su\u1ed1t bao nhi\u00eau n\u0103m, s\u1ef1 gi\u1eadn d\u1eef l\u1eabn nhau ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng l\u1edbn m\u1ea1nh cho \u0111\u1ebfn n\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u1ea5y n\u1eefa v\u00e0 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n m\u1ea5t \u0111i s\u1ef1 ham mu\u1ed1n t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c v\u00ec anh c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 ph\u1ee5c t\u00f9ng c\u1ee7a n\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111au kh\u1ed5 v\u00e0 mi\u1ec5n c\u01b0\u1ee1ng. C\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng h\u1ecdc y\u00eau c\u00e1i m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia th\u00edch. M\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ecb l\u1eeba d\u1ed1i trong nh\u1eefng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e1ng c\u1ee7a ri\u00eang m\u00ecnh. C\u1ea3 hai mu\u1ed1n nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n cho.<\/p>\n

TH\u00c1I \u0110\u1ed8 QUAN TR\u1eccNG H\u01a0N K\u1ef6 THU\u1eacT<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u1ef1 ph\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ea5u \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0 l\u00e0 ngu\u1ed3n c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ee5ng \u0111\u1ed9 v\u00e0 ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n. \u00cdt ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1eadn ra s\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n trong vi\u1ec7c t\u00ecnh \u00e1i n\u1eb1m trong s\u1ef1 bi\u1ebft th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n. Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u00fd h\u01b0\u1edbng th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng s\u1ed1ng cho nhau v\u00e0 s\u1ed1ng trong nhau. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 th\u1ea5y c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ri\u00eang h\u1ecd, kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng ri\u00eang h\u1ecd, c\u00e1i t\u00f4i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd b\u1ecb t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng ho\u1eb7c b\u1ecb kh\u01b0\u1edbc t\u1eeb. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng ra kh\u1ecfi ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m nghi\u1ec7m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Bao l\u00e2u ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi, \u0111\u1ea7u \u00f3c h\u1ecd ra kh\u1ecfi ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 t\u1eadp trung chung quanh c\u00e1i t\u00f4i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

C\u0169ng v\u1eady, n\u1ebfu c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c v\u1ec1 b\u1ed5n ph\u1eadn ho\u1eb7c v\u1ec1 tai h\u1ecda \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi danh ti\u1ebfng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n th\u00ec tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1 c\u0169ng x\u1ea3y ra nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. D\u1eabu ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta xem ra th\u00edch th\u00fa trong vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m tr\u00f2n b\u1ed5n ph\u1eadn c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c v\u1ec1 b\u1ed5n ph\u1eadn th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c c\u1ea3m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1ch tr\u00f2n \u0111\u1ea7y c\u00e1i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n m\u00ecnh. B\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 l\u1ee3i \u00edch n\u00e0o ngo\u00e0i s\u1ef1 vui h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n v\u1edbi nhau \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0m ph\u00e2n t\u00e1n v\u00e0 gi\u1ebft ch\u1ebft c\u1ea3m x\u00fac. S\u1ef1 l\u1ea1nh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng l\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c gi\u1ebft ch\u1ebft x\u00fac c\u1ea3m \u0111\u00f3. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean v\u1ec1 th\u1ea7n kinh v\u00e0 che gi\u1ea5u nh\u1eefng \u00fd h\u01b0\u1edbng th\u1eadt nh\u01b0 b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 m\u1ed9t tri\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng th\u1ea7n kinh n\u00e0o. Trong l\u00fac ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u00fa tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ebfn ti\u1ebfng t\u0103m ho\u1eb7c th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 kh\u00e1c. S\u1ef1 gi\u1eadn d\u1eef \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi vai tr\u00f2 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00e0m nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef do d\u1ef1 \u0111\u00f3ng vai tr\u00f2 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef trong vi\u1ec7c \u00e2n \u00e1i v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 gi\u1eadn d\u1eef n\u00e0y t\u1ea1o n\u00ean s\u1ef1 l\u1ea1nh c\u1ea3m. Th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00ec ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00f4ng \u00fd th\u1ee9c r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd l\u1ea1nh c\u1ea3m v\u00ec h\u1ecd y\u00eau ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ecb k\u00edch th\u00edch v\u1ec1 chuy\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh \u00e1i, nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecd thi\u1ebfu m\u1ea5t c\u00e1i c\u1ea3m x\u00fac t\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ec9nh. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c mong \u0111\u1ee3i c\u00e1ch lu\u1ed1ng c\u00f4ng m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 k\u00edch th\u00edch n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 v\u00ec h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd l\u00e0m c\u1ea3n tr\u1edf nh\u1eefng x\u00fac c\u1ea3m h\u1ecd \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u1ed7 t\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ec9nh. S\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t kh\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a nam gi\u1edbi c\u0169ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. S\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t kh\u1ea3 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0: ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0 gi\u1eef kho\u1ea3ng c\u00e1ch ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3n \u1ea3nh m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 nghi ng\u1edd s\u00e2u xa: h\u1ecd c\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u1eadt hay kh\u00f4ng? Thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 k\u00edch th\u00edch t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 chi\u1ec1u s\u00e2u c\u1ee7a c\u1ea3m x\u00fac lu\u00f4n c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 co r\u00fat v\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n gi\u1eef kho\u1ea3ng c\u00e1ch th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 do b\u1edfi s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng, kh\u00f4ng th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n

Th\u1eadt \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u1ec3 xem s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t th\u1ec3 l\u00fd v\u1ec1 nh\u1ecbp \u0111i\u1ec7u gi\u1eefa nam v\u00e0 n\u1eef trong vi\u1ec7c \u00e2n \u00e1i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u00e0n c\u00e3i r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u trong th\u1eddi gian g\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e2y. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 c\u1ea3 nam v\u00e0 n\u1eef trong m\u1ecdi tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p ph\u1ea3i th\u00edch \u1ee9ng v\u1edbi nhau v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 hu\u1ea5n luy\u1ec7n. C\u00e1i nguy hi\u1ec3m trong t\u01b0\u01a1ng quan t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c l\u00e0 chi\u1ec1u h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi tr\u00ean nhau. Ch\u00e0ng v\u00e0 n\u00e0ng n\u00ean h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1p tr\u1ea3 c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c nhau t\u00f9y theo t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng. Ch\u00fang ta gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c cho nhau nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd b\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi. \u0110\u00f2i h\u1ecfi ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0m gi\u1eadn d\u1eef v\u00e0 t\u1ea1o n\u00ean s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 ch\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed1i.<\/p>\n

N\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n h\u1ed7 t\u01b0\u01a1ng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1ch t\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed9ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta ph\u1ea3i b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh th\u00edch nghi b\u1edfi ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd. H\u00e3y nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1c b\u00e0 d\u1ec5 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng h\u01a1n c\u00e1c \u00f4ng. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0: ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng ch\u1eadm tr\u1ec5 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00e0 do th\u1ec3 l\u00fd hay l\u00e0 do th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 do d\u1ef1 chung c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd trong vi\u1ec7c li\u00ean h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh \u00e1i. L\u1ed1i hu\u1ea5n luy\u1ec7n th\u1ee5 \u0111\u1ed9ng khi\u1ebfn c\u00e1c b\u00e0 c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi v\u00e0 d\u1ec5 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n h\u01a1n n\u00ean mong \u0111\u1ee3i m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft t\u1eeb ph\u00eda \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng. C\u00e1i v\u00f2ng l\u1ea9n qu\u1ea9n \u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9c \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0a \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 gi\u1eadn d\u1eef v\u00e0 r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n s\u00e2u xa trong li\u00ean h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh \u00e1i.<\/p>\n

Th\u1eadt v\u1eady, nam v\u00e0 n\u1eef v\u1eabn c\u00f3 c\u00e1i g\u00ec gi\u1ed1ng nhau h\u01a1n l\u00e0 c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 khoa h\u1ecdc theo ch\u1ee7 ngh\u0129a v\u1eadt ch\u1ea5t mu\u1ed1n tin. Hai c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n h\u00f2a h\u1ee3p trong m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn h\u1ed7 t\u01b0\u01a1ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u0111\u1ed3ng nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u00e1ng k\u1ec3. B\u1ea5y gi\u1edd, b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec x\u1ea3y ra n\u01a1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y c\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chia x\u1ebb b\u1edfi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng ph\u00e9p l\u1ea1 c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi: l\u00e0m c\u00e1ch n\u00e0o con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng chuy\u1ec3n nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c v\u00e0 ngay c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng cho nhau ngang qua h\u00e0ng r\u00e0o ng\u0103n tr\u1edf c\u1ee7a th\u00e2n x\u00e1c h\u1ecd. Bao l\u00e2u h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec ph\u1ea3i v\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ea5n trong \u0111\u1ea7u \u00f3c, bao l\u00e2u h\u1ecd v\u1eabn c\u00f2n ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nhau trong s\u1ef1 tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n, b\u1ea5y gi\u1edd m\u1ed7i \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c x\u00fac c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ea3 hai nh\u01b0 nhau. D\u01b0\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf, s\u1ef1 h\u1ed3i h\u1ed9p v\u00e0 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n x\u1ea3y ra c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t l\u00fac. M\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 th\u00edch \u1ee9ng h\u1ed7 t\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u00ec v\u00f4 gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n. N\u00f3 t\u00f9y thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o \u00fd mu\u1ed1n ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nhau m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi v\u00e0 gi\u1eadn d\u1eef, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 ph\u00e0n n\u00e0n v\u00e0 kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu. M\u1ecdi s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t bao l\u00e2u c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u th\u00edch th\u00fa. N\u1ebfu m\u1ed9t b\u00ean m\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng ph\u00eda b\u00ean kia th\u00ec ch\u1eb3ng kh\u00e1c g\u00ec m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 hi\u1ebfp d\u00e2m. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t b\u1ed5n ph\u1eadn h\u1ed7 t\u01b0\u01a1ng. T\u00ecnh \u00e1i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft l\u1eabn nhau.<\/p>\n

T\u00e1c gi\u1ea3: Lm. L\u00ea V\u0103n Qu\u1ea3ng Psy.D.<\/span> <\/strong><\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

N\u1ebfu m\u1ed9t b\u00ean m\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng ph\u00eda b\u00ean kia th\u00ec ch\u1eb3ng kh\u00e1c g\u00ec m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 hi\u1ebfp d\u00e2m. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t b\u1ed5n ph\u1eadn h\u1ed7 t\u01b0\u01a1ng. T\u00ecnh \u00e1i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft l\u1eabn nhau.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":6627,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jnews-multi-image_gallery":[],"jnews_single_post":[],"jnews_primary_category":[],"jnews_social_meta":[],"jnews_override_counter":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[46],"tags":[83],"series":[],"class_list":["post-6626","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-doi-song-gia-dinh","tag-lm-phero-le-van-quang"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6626","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6626"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6626\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6627"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6626"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6626"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6626"},{"taxonomy":"series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/series?post=6626"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}