{"id":6603,"date":"2019-08-31T05:36:10","date_gmt":"2019-08-30T22:36:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/?p=6603"},"modified":"2019-08-31T05:36:10","modified_gmt":"2019-08-30T22:36:10","slug":"nhung-van-de-cua-hon-nhan-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/nhung-van-de-cua-hon-nhan-1\/","title":{"rendered":"NH\u1eeeNG V\u1ea4N \u0110\u1ec0 C\u1ee6A H\u00d4N NH\u00c2N (1)"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>\u201cNh\u00e2n V\u00f4 Th\u1eadp To\u00e0n.\u201d \u201cCon ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0 b\u1ea5t to\u00e0n.\u201d \u0110\u00e2y c\u0169ng l\u00e0 ch\u1ee7 tr\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u1ee7a Alfred Adler v\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u00e1i c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng. Con ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 th\u1ea7n th\u00e1nh n\u00ean v\u1eabn c\u00f2n c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u thi\u1ebfu s\u00f3t, l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m m\u00e0 d\u1eabu cho con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 mu\u1ed1n xa tr\u00e1nh c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh kh\u1ecfi. V\u00ec th\u1ebf, trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng chung c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 n\u00e0o tho\u00e1t kh\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng xung \u0111\u1ed9t r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i x\u1ea3y ra trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng gia \u0111\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea2N T\u00cdNH C\u1ee6A NH\u1eeeNG V\u1ea4N \u0110\u1ec0 C\u1ee6A CON NG\u01af\u1edcI<\/b><\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng tr\u1ee5c tr\u1eb7c r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta g\u1eb7p trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng chung th\u00ec v\u00f4 k\u1ec3. Su\u1ed1t cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 kh\u1eafc ph\u1ee5c ch\u01b0\u1edbng ng\u1ea1i. H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n th\u00ec c\u00f3 l\u1ee3i v\u00ec n\u00f3 mang hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1edbi nhau \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap nhau c\u00f9ng chi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ea5u cho s\u1ef1 s\u1ed1ng c\u00f2n. M\u1eb7c d\u1ea7u h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng b\u1ed5n ph\u1eadn c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng, ch\u00ednh n\u00f3 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t b\u1ed5n ph\u1eadn ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tho\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e1p. Trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ed1i \u0111\u1ea7u kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng m\u00e0 c\u00f2n nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 xem nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t tr\u1eafc nghi\u1ec7m v\u1ec1 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng chung s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng quan s\u00e1t n\u00e0y cho th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed7i v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 kh\u00e1c nhau c\u1ee7a c\u00e1 t\u00ednh v\u00e0 c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. Tr\u00ean b\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t, n\u1ed9i dung c\u1ee7a v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n tr\u01b0\u1edbc. Ch\u00fang ta \u00fd th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i. C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ch\u1ee7 quan n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00e2y ra b\u1edfi ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng. Kinh t\u1ebf, x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p, ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eefng xung kh\u1eafc t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c xem ra \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t. N\u1ebfu nh\u1eefng c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng vui th\u00edch v\u00e0 ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n theo sau. Ng\u00e0y x\u01b0a, s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 v\u00e0 h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn b\u1ecb gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng qui ch\u1ebf \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tu\u00e2n gi\u1eef \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea3o \u0111\u1ea3m s\u1ef1 c\u1ed9ng t\u00e1c v\u00e0 h\u00e0i h\u00f2a trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ec1 ngh\u1ecb \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ed1ng hi\u1ebfn th\u00ec thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 k\u1ef7 thu\u1eadt, gi\u1edbi thi\u1ec7u nh\u1eefng ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh k\u1ef7 thu\u1eadt \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tu\u00e2n theo \u0111\u1ec3 th\u00f5a \u0111\u00e1p nh\u1eefng ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng. Nh\u1eefng lu\u1eadt l\u1ec7 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vi\u1ebft ra \u0111\u1ec3 h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng con ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Ng\u00e0y nay, c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd t\u00ecm \u0111\u1eb1ng sau b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 n\u00e0o m\u1ed9t c\u1ea5u tr\u00fac ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00e1c v\u1edbi v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 hi\u1ec3n nhi\u00ean t\u1ef1 n\u00f3, l\u00e0 c\u00e1i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xem nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t tri\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng. M\u1ed7i v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00e1i to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 c\u1ee7a ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh s\u1ed1ng, l\u00e0 c\u00e1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea1o n\u00ean b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i v\u00e0 th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1eeb qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 nh\u01b0: c\u00e1ch s\u1ed1ng, s\u1ef1 hu\u1ea5n luy\u1ec7n, v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 s\u1ef1 th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn c\u00f3 t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111ang g\u00e2y s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ee5ng \u0111\u1ed9 \u0111\u1ec1u m\u1ea1c kh\u1ea3i cho ch\u00fang ta th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m t\u00e2m l\u00fd l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i \u0111\u00e3 g\u00e2y n\u00ean nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i ho\u1eb7c \u0111ang l\u00e0m c\u1ea3n tr\u1edf nh\u1eefng gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft th\u00f5a \u0111\u00e1ng. D\u1eabu xem ra \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0: s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed1i \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta v\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng mang l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee5ng \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 v\u00e0 th\u1eadt s\u1ef1, l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i \u0111\u00e3 mang l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng, \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn, v\u00e0 ngay c\u1ea3 s\u00e1t h\u1ea1i, nh\u01b0ng th\u1eadt ra s\u1ef1 xung kh\u1eafc ch\u1ec9 n\u1eb1m trong ch\u00ednh ch\u00fang ta. C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt c\u00f3 hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu kh\u00f4ng ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 trong quan ni\u1ec7m ch\u00fang ta v\u1ec1 n\u00f3, v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 tri\u1ebft l\u00fd v\u00e0 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00f3 hi\u1ec3u, l\u00e0m ch\u00fang ta d\u1ec5 b\u1ecb l\u1eabn l\u1ed9n. \u1ede \u0111\u00e2y ch\u00fang ta \u0111ang s\u1ed1ng trong m\u1ed9t th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi t\u00e2m l\u00fd, m\u1ed9t th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi s\u1ebd ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t khi ch\u00fang ta nh\u00ecn \u0111\u1eb1ng sau b\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1. S\u1ef1 ph\u00e2n t\u00edch nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 cho th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t c\u0103n b\u1ea3n gi\u1eefa v\u1ebb m\u1eb7t b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i c\u1ee7a v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh t\u1ea1o n\u00ean n\u00f3. M\u1ed7i v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t bi\u1ec3u l\u1ed9 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a c\u00e1 th\u1ec3 v\u00e0 c\u1ee7a x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i n\u1eb1m b\u00ean d\u01b0\u1edbi b\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t. S\u1ef1 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft nh\u1eefng xung kh\u1eafc \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c \u0111ang n\u1eb1m b\u00ean d\u01b0\u1edbi c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1 t\u00ednh c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan.<\/p>\n

CH\u1ee6 QUAN V\u1ec0 NH\u1eeeNG V\u1ea4N \u0110\u1ec0<\/b><\/p>\n

Bao l\u00e2u c\u00f2n s\u1ed1ng, ta c\u00f2n ch\u1ee9ng ki\u1ebfn: quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c s\u1ebd ch\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed1i nhau, quy\u1ec1n l\u1ee3i s\u1ebd cho\u1ea3ng nhau, v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi s\u1ebd xung kh\u1eafc nhau. S\u1ef1 s\u1ed1ng s\u1ebd nh\u01b0\u1eddng l\u1ed1i cho s\u1ef1 ch\u1ebft v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n s\u1ebd l\u00e0m s\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 h\u1ee7y di\u1ec7t. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 th\u00ec \u0111\u00fang cho con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, sinh v\u1eadt, gia \u0111\u00ecnh, qu\u1ed1c gia, v\u00e0 th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi. S\u1ef1 xung kh\u1eafc v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee5ng \u0111\u1ed9 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 \u0111au kh\u1ed5, ngay c\u1ea3 s\u1ef1 ch\u1ebft c\u0169ng \u00edt khi \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn. Nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng may x\u1ea3y ra ch\u1ecbu tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m cho m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 nh\u1eefng \u0111au kh\u1ed5 c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. Th\u1eadt kh\u00f3 tin nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i \u0111\u00fang, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ch\u1ebft, b\u1ec7nh t\u1eadt, chi\u1ebfn tranh, v\u00e0 ngh\u00e8o kh\u1ed5 ch\u1ec9 g\u00e2y m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n nh\u1ecf c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng kh\u1ed1n c\u00f9ng c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u00f4m nay. Kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng th\u00edch nghi c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh bi \u0111\u00e1t nh\u1ea5t th\u00ec th\u1eadt l\u00e0 l\u1ea1 l\u00f9ng. \u0110au kh\u1ed5 x\u1ea3y ra trong ch\u00ednh ch\u00fang ta. N\u00f3 \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c. N\u00f3 n\u1eb1m trong \u0111\u1ea7u \u00f3c ch\u00fang ta. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng \u00fd th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh s\u1ed1ng, tr\u00e1i l\u1ea1i ch\u00fang ta nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c h\u01a1n bao gi\u1edd h\u1ebft c\u00e1i t\u01b0\u01a1ng quan gi\u1eefa s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n v\u00e0 l\u00fd tr\u00ed. Ch\u00fang ta bi\u1ebft l\u00fd tr\u00ed con ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ea1o n\u00ean s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n v\u00e0 ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh, nh\u01b0ng c\u0169ng ch\u00ednh n\u00f3 b\u1ecb k\u00edch \u0111\u1ed9ng b\u1edfi s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m nghi\u1ec7m. C\u00f3 s\u1ef1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng quan gi\u1eefa c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a n\u00f3. Nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng n\u00e0o d\u00f9 ph\u1ea5n kh\u1edfi hay kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea5n kh\u1edfi \u0111\u1ec1u tu\u1ef3 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh theo m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n. Th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta n\u00f3i l\u00ean s\u1ef1 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn hay t\u1eeb kh\u01b0\u1edbc, v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 s\u1ef1 kh\u01b0\u1edbc t\u1eeb m\u1edbi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u1ed1i li\u1ec1n v\u1edbi c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng vui th\u00edch.<\/p>\n

Th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 ch\u00fang ta x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh \u00fd ngh\u0129a c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n. S\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n t\u1ef1 n\u00f3, s\u1ef1 s\u1ed1ng t\u1ef1 n\u00f3, kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t kh\u00f4ng x\u1ea5u, kh\u00f4ng vui kh\u00f4ng ch\u00e1n. Ch\u00ednh th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 hay ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta m\u1edbi \u0111\u00e1ng k\u1ec3. H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft m\u1ecdi s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ec1u ch\u1ee9a \u0111\u1ef1ng nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3, ngay c\u1ea3 c\u00e1i ch\u1ebft ho\u1eb7c \u0111au kh\u1ed5 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn v\u00e0 ch\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3n. \u0110au \u0111\u1edbn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n ho\u1eb7c ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh nh\u01b0 sinh con ho\u1eb7c nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh ph\u1ee5c \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi b\u1ec7nh t\u00ea li\u1ec7t; v\u00ec th\u1ebf, \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u r\u1ea5t th\u00edch th\u00fa, m\u1ed9t n\u1ed7i vui m\u1eebng l\u1edbn lao, v\u00e0 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ni\u1ec1m hy v\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ea7y tr\u00e0n n\u1eefa. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 r\u00fat \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1i hay, c\u00e1i t\u1ed1t t\u1eeb b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 c\u00e1i g\u00ec, v\u00e0 c\u00e1i x\u1ea5u c\u0169ng v\u1eady. Ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh n\u00e0o c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ti\u00eau di\u1ec7t hay k\u00edch \u0111\u1ed9ng m\u1ed9t t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai. S\u1ef1 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta, c\u00e1i ti\u00ean ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi c\u00e1i \u0111\u1eb9p ho\u1eb7c c\u00e1i x\u1ea5u v\u00e0 l\u00e0m ch\u00fang ta nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 h\u1eefu \u00edch ho\u1eb7c tai ho\u1ea1. Th\u00e0nh ki\u1ebfn bi\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt th\u00e0nh s\u1ef1 t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng: ch\u00fang ta th\u1ea5y \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u00fang ta th\u00edch th\u1ea5y v\u00e0 t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u00fang ta mong t\u00ecm. Ch\u00fang ta h\u1ecdc b\u1eb1ng kinh nghi\u1ec7m theo m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n v\u00ec ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1ea1o n\u00ean nh\u1eefng kinh nghi\u1ec7m, \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta x\u1ebfp \u0111\u1eb7t ch\u00fang v\u00e0 c\u1eaft ngh\u0129a ch\u00fang theo nh\u01b0 \u00fd ch\u00fang ta mu\u1ed1n.<\/p>\n

S\u1ef1 c\u1eaft ngh\u0129a qu\u00e1 l\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng\u00a0 s\u1ebd b\u1ecb t\u1ed1 c\u00e1o l\u00e0 qu\u00ean m\u1ea5t th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ea3n sinh b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i ch\u00fang ta. Theo kinh nghi\u1ec7m h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta, cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 b\u1ecb quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh bao quanh m\u00e0 so v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3, s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh ch\u00fang ta xem ra nh\u1ecf b\u00e9. Nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n v\u1ec7 sinh, b\u1ea3o \u0111\u1ea3m kinh t\u1ebf ho\u1eb7c th\u1ea5t nghi\u1ec7p, chi\u1ebfn tranh ho\u1eb7c s\u1ef1 ph\u1ed3n vinh c\u00f3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh tr\u00ean d\u00f2ng \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng ch\u00fang ta. M\u1ed9t nh\u00f3m ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ecb ng\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e3i v\u00e0 b\u1ecb \u0111\u00e0n \u00e1p, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u00edt bao g\u1ed3m ho\u1eb7c s\u1ea3n sinh nh\u1eefng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3i kh\u1ed5 \u00edt khi l\u1ea1c quan. C\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i kh\u00f4ng quan trong h\u01a1n nh\u1eefng th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n kh\u00f4ng?<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng quan \u0111i\u1ec3m m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m cho nhi\u1ec1u hi\u1ec3u l\u1ea7m trong nh\u1eefng li\u00ean h\u1ec7 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, trong s\u1ef1 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u, v\u00e0 trong vi\u1ec7c h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn. Ch\u1ee7 ngh\u0129a v\u1eadt ch\u1ea5t v\u00e0 t\u00e2m linh \u0111\u1ea1i di\u1ec7n cho nh\u1eefng b\u1ed9 m\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c nhau c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng. C\u00f3 m\u1ed9t kho\u1ea3ng th\u1eddi gian r\u1ea5t l\u00e2u, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta ch\u00fa tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ebfn con ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ec1 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng di\u1ec7n kinh t\u1ebf v\u00e0 x\u00e3 h\u00f4i, \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 thu\u1ed9c ch\u1ee7 ngh\u0129a v\u1eadt ch\u1ea5t; nh\u1eefng quan ni\u1ec7m v\u1ec1 t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o v\u00e0 tri\u1ebft l\u00fd tr\u00e1i l\u1ea1i thu\u1ed9c ch\u1ee7 ngh\u0129a t\u00e2m linh. Tuy nhi\u00ean, ng\u00e0y nay ch\u00fang ta \u0111ang h\u01b0\u1edbng v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t quan ni\u1ec7m to\u00e0n di\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi. Ch\u00fang ta t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y trong t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i c\u1ea3 hai khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng v\u1eeba th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf v\u1eeba l\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng. Nh\u1eefng nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u1ec1 nh\u00e2n c\u00e1ch ch\u1ec9 c\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 tr\u00ean c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n trong khi c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u1ec1 ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef xem nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch c\u1eaft ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 quan ni\u1ec7m c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh. Xem ra kh\u00f3 ho\u00e0 nh\u1eadp c\u1ea3 hai quan \u0111i\u1ec3m. Trong c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng h\u00f2a h\u1ee3p hai b\u1ed9 m\u1eb7t n\u00e0y, c\u1ea3 hai xem ra \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u00fang nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn nhau, ch\u00fang ta nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 t\u1eeb khoa v\u1eadt l\u00fd h\u1ecdc hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i. C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 v\u1eadt l\u00fd cho th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1i ch\u00fang ta g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 qui lu\u1eadt c\u1ee7a con s\u1ed1 l\u1edbn, trong khi m\u1ed9t ph\u00e2n t\u1eed xem ra kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ti\u00ean \u0111o\u00e1n tr\u01b0\u1edbc v\u1ec1 di chuy\u1ec3n v\u00e0 t\u1ed1c \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a n\u00f3. \u00c1p d\u1ee5ng cho nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, quan ni\u1ec7m v\u1ec1 nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u1eadt ch\u1ea5t quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh s\u1ed1 ph\u1eadn c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e1m \u0111\u00f4ng. Nh\u1eefng \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf c\u00f3 t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh cho m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 l\u1edbn ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng cho c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, nh\u00e2n s\u1ed1 \u1edf M\u1ef9 th\u1ea5t nghi\u1ec7p t\u00f9y theo \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i v\u00e0 kinh t\u1ebf m\u00e0 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang th\u00ec r\u1ea5t l\u1edbn lao. B\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 s\u1ef1 th\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn n\u00e0o c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec1u s\u1ea3n xu\u1ea5t s\u1ef1 gia t\u0103ng c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 s\u1ef1 tho\u00e1i ho\u00e1 n\u00e0o c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0m gi\u1ea3m c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c. T\u01b0\u01a1ng quan n\u00e0y l\u00e0 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn. Nh\u01b0ng d\u1eabu cho anh v\u00e0 t\u00f4i th\u1ea5t nghi\u1ec7p th\u00ec vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5t quy\u1ebft b\u1edfi kinh t\u1ebf v\u00e0 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng b\u1edfi con s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ea5t nghi\u1ec7p. N\u00f3 t\u00f9y thu\u1ed9c c\u00e1ch ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e1p tr\u1ea3 s\u1ef1 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. N\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng ch\u1ecbu kh\u00f3 h\u01a1n, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c ho\u1eb7c ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o n\u00ean c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00e1ch l\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch tr\u00e1i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi ch\u1ee7 ngh\u0129a quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n. C\u1ea3 hai ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb r\u00f5 r\u1ec7t n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t c\u00e1ch r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1i \u0111\u1ea7u n\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00f9ng trong vi\u1ec7c xem x\u00e9t nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 c\u00e1i th\u1ee9 hai trong vi\u1ec7c ph\u00e1n \u0111o\u00e1n nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n t\u1ed5ng qu\u00e1t. T\u1ec9 l\u1ec7 ph\u1ea7n tr\u0103m c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ef1 t\u1eed trong c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng v\u1eabn gi\u1eef kh\u00f4ng thay \u0111\u1ed5i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch l\u1ea1 l\u00f9ng t\u1eeb n\u0103m n\u00e0y qua n\u0103m kh\u00e1c, v\u00e0 c\u00f3 li\u00ean h\u1ec7 \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n kinh t\u1ebf ho\u1eb7c li\u00ean h\u1ec7 \u0111\u1ebfn m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u00ednh tr\u1ecb v\u00e0 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i g\u00e2y n\u00ean s\u1ef1 th\u0103ng gi\u1ea3m trong con s\u1ed1. Su\u1ed1t th\u1eddi gian chi\u1ebfn tranh v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch m\u1ea1ng, con s\u1ed1 t\u1ef1 t\u1eed th\u01b0\u1eddng gi\u1ea3m. Nh\u01b0ng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u00f3 t\u1ef1 t\u1eed ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng th\u00ec ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp v\u1edbi gi\u00e1 g\u1ea1o v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng chi\u1ebfn tranh.<\/p>\n

D\u1ea7u b\u1ecb l\u00f4i k\u00e9o b\u1edfi m\u1ecdi \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng, h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n b\u1ecb quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u00f3. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 n\u00e0o kh\u00e1c quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh, c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i n\u00e0o kh\u00e1c tr\u00ean h\u1ecd. Ch\u00ednh c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n h\u1ecd ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n t\u1ef1 do l\u1eadp ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh v\u00e0 l\u00e0m theo ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh \u0111\u00f3. Th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea1o th\u00e0nh trong m\u1ed9t kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc nh\u01b0ng c\u00f3 n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng v\u00e0 ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh nh\u1eefng b\u01b0\u1edbc n\u00e0o h\u1ecd s\u1ebd \u0111i v\u00e0 h\u01b0\u1edbng n\u00e0o h\u1ecd s\u1ebd di chuy\u1ec3n.<\/p>\n

T\u00e1c gi\u1ea3: Lm. L\u00ea V\u0103n Qu\u1ea3ng Psy.D. <\/strong><\/b><\/p>\n

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\u201cNh\u00e2n V\u00f4 Th\u1eadp To\u00e0n.\u201d \u201cCon ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0 b\u1ea5t to\u00e0n.\u201d \u0110\u00e2y c\u0169ng l\u00e0 ch\u1ee7 tr\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u1ee7a Alfred Adler v\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u00e1i c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng. Con ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 th\u1ea7n th\u00e1nh n\u00ean v\u1eabn c\u00f2n c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u thi\u1ebfu s\u00f3t, l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m m\u00e0 d\u1eabu cho con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 mu\u1ed1n xa tr\u00e1nh c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh kh\u1ecfi. V\u00ec th\u1ebf, trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng chung c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 n\u00e0o tho\u00e1t kh\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng xung \u0111\u1ed9t r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i x\u1ea3y ra trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng gia \u0111\u00ecnh. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":4481,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jnews-multi-image_gallery":[],"jnews_single_post":[],"jnews_primary_category":[],"jnews_social_meta":[],"jnews_override_counter":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[46],"tags":[83],"series":[],"class_list":["post-6603","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-doi-song-gia-dinh","tag-lm-phero-le-van-quang"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6603","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6603"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6603\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4481"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6603"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6603"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6603"},{"taxonomy":"series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/series?post=6603"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}