{"id":5807,"date":"2019-04-06T07:55:45","date_gmt":"2019-04-06T00:55:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/?p=5807"},"modified":"2019-04-06T07:55:45","modified_gmt":"2019-04-06T00:55:45","slug":"lieu-phap-rebt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gdvsdt.com\/blog\/lieu-phap-rebt\/","title":{"rendered":"Li\u1ec7u ph\u00e1p REBT"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>P<\/span>h\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p t\u00e2m l\u00fd tr\u1ecb li\u1ec7u Rational-Emotive Behavior Theraphy (t\u1ea1m d\u1ecbch, Li\u1ec7u Ph\u00e1p H\u00e0nh Vi C\u1ea3m X\u00fac, vi\u1ebft t\u1eaft REBT) do nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc Albert Ellis (1930-2007) nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u v\u00e0 ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn; n\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p h\u1eefu hi\u1ec7u trong vi\u1ec7c gi\u00fap b\u1ec7nh nh\u00e2n c\u00f3 th\u00f3i quen th\u01b0\u1eddng hay \u201cnu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng\u201d nh\u1eefng t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c lu\u1eabn qu\u1ea9n trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed. \u00d4ng Albert Ellis s\u01a1 l\u01b0\u1ee3c ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh n\u00e0y nh\u01b0 sau: S\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n \u2013 D\u1ef1ng chuy\u1ec7n \u2013 Tin chuy\u1ec7n \u2013 C\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u2013 H\u1eadu qu\u1ea3. Ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y c\u00f9ng nhau ph\u00e2n t\u00edch m\u1ed9t v\u00ed d\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c lo\u1ea1i REBT, v\u00e0 t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a n\u00f3.<\/p>\n

S\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n<\/em>: Hai tu s\u0129 trong m\u1ed9t c\u1ed9ng \u0111o\u00e0n. Tu s\u0129 A l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m gi\u1eef v\u1ec7 sinh trong ph\u00f2ng h\u1ecdp. Tu s\u0129 B t\u1eeb c\u1ed9ng \u0111o\u00e0n kh\u00e1c m\u1edbi chuy\u1ec3n t\u1edbi, ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng mang th\u1ee9c \u0103n v\u00e0 th\u1ee9c u\u1ed1ng v\u00e0o ph\u00f2ng h\u1ecdp. Theo qui \u0111\u1ecbnh chung, trong ph\u00f2ng h\u1ecdp kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c mang th\u1ee9c \u0103n. V\u00ec vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y, tu s\u0129 A nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf tu s\u0129 B.<\/p>\n

D\u1ef1ng chuy\u1ec7n<\/em>: Sau khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00f3p \u00fd, tu s\u0129 B b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i n\u00f3i l\u1eddi c\u00e1m \u01a1n, nh\u01b0ng b\u00ean trong l\u1ea1i t\u1ecf ra b\u1ea5t b\u00ecnh, kh\u00f4ng vui. Tu s\u0129 B ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng \u201cN\u00f3 l\u00e0 ai m\u00e0 nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf m\u00ecnh tr\u01b0\u1edbc c\u1ed9ng \u0111o\u00e0n nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, tu\u1ed5i n\u00f3 \u0111\u00e1ng con m\u00ecnh m\u00e0 b\u00e0y \u0111\u1eb7t.\u201d Th\u00eam v\u00e0o n\u1eefa, tu s\u0129 B \u0111i nghe ng\u00f3ng v\u00e0 g\u1ee3i nh\u1eefng chuy\u1ec7n ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c v\u1ec1 tu s\u0129 A. D\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n, tu s\u0129 B \u0111\u00e3 d\u1ef1ng th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 tu s\u0129 A: \u201cTu s\u0129 A l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00edch l\u00e0m n\u1ed7i, th\u00edch ch\u1ec9 d\u1ea1y, t\u1ecf v\u1ebb b\u1ec1 tr\u00ean.\u201d<\/p>\n

Tin Chuy\u1ec7n:<\/em> T\u1eeb c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ef1ng n\u00ean, tu s\u0129 B \u0111i t\u1edbi s\u1ef1 \u201cx\u00e1c t\u00edn\u201d t\u1eeb s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n m\u00e0 m\u00ecnh t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c trong c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n do m\u00ecnh d\u1ef1ng l\u00ean. \u201cTu s\u0129 A l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi k\u00eau ng\u1ea1o.\u201d<\/p>\n

C\u1ea3m x\u00fac<\/em>: T\u1eeb \u201cni\u1ec1m tin\u201d n\u00e0y, tu s\u0129 B lu\u00f4n bu\u1ed3n b\u1ef1c, hay gi\u1eadn, n\u00f3ng n\u1ea3y \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi tu s\u0129 A v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh.<\/p>\n

H\u1eadu qu\u1ea3<\/em>: Tu s\u0129 B th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1ecf ra kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu, ph\u00e0n n\u00e0n, ch\u00ea bai, h\u1eadm h\u1ef1c \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t nh\u1eefng l\u00fac tu s\u0129 A ph\u00e1t bi\u1ec3u hay xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n trong c\u1ed9ng \u0111o\u00e0n. \u201cN\u00f3 \u0111\u00e2u c\u00f3 x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00f3; chuy\u1ec7n n\u00e0y do ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u00e0m th\u00ec t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n \u201cn\u00f3\u201d nhi\u1ec1u.\u201d<\/p>\n

V\u00f2ng xo\u00e1y c\u1ee9 th\u1ebf ti\u1ebfp di\u1ec5n: S\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n \u2013 d\u1ef1ng chuy\u1ec7n \u2013 tin chuy\u1ec7n \u2013 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u2013 h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3.<\/p>\n

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Tr\u1eadn chi\u1ebfn \u0111ang di\u1ec5n ra ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 tr\u1eadn chi\u1ebfn n\u1ed9i t\u00e2m, v\u00e0 k\u1ebb th\u00f9 g\u00e2y n\u00ean tr\u1eadn chi\u1ebfn \u1ea5y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ki\u00eau ng\u1ea1o<\/em>.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n \u201cs\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n\u201d trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch r\u1ea5t kh\u00e1ch quan \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta. Nh\u01b0ng s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu khi\u00eam t\u1ed1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh v\u00e0o giai \u0111o\u1ea1n \u201cd\u1ef1ng chuy\u1ec7n\u201d. \u201cD\u1ef1ng chuy\u1ec7n\u201d t\u1ef1a nh\u01b0 d\u1ef1ng n\u00ean m\u1ed9t b\u1ee9c t\u01b0\u1eddng chung quanh m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 m\u00ecnh. Hay n\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, khi m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n x\u1ea3y ra kh\u00f4ng \u201cthu\u1eadn \u00fd\u201d m\u00ecnh, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng x\u00e2y n\u00ean nh\u1eefng t\u01b0\u1eddng lu\u1ef9 xung quanh m\u00ecnh, tr\u01b0\u1edbc l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 m\u00ecnh, th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00e0 \u201ct\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng\u201d ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o n\u00ean s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n \u1ea5y. V\u1eady l\u00fd do g\u00ec m\u00e0 ta ph\u1ea3i t\u1ea1o n\u00ean nh\u1eefng \u201ct\u01b0\u1eddng lu\u1ef9\u201d nh\u01b0 v\u1eady? T\u00ednh t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean l\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n \u201cche\u201d nh\u1eefng khuy\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, mu\u1ed1n b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 m\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec3m y\u1ebfu c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

Sau khi \u0111\u00e3 ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh giai \u0111o\u1ea1n \u201cd\u1ef1ng chuy\u1ec7n,\u201d giai \u0111o\u1ea1n \u201ctin chuy\u1ec7n\u201d di\u1ec5n ra nh\u01b0 \u0111\u1ec3 c\u0169ng c\u1ed1 th\u00eam giai \u0111o\u1ea1n \u201cd\u1ef1ng chuy\u1ec7n.\u201d \u201cTin chuy\u1ec7n\u201d \u0111\u1ec3 qu\u1ea3 quy\u1ebft th\u00eam t\u00f4i \u0111\u00fang, c\u00f2n ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia sai. T\u00f4i hay, c\u00f2n ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia d\u1ee1. T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, c\u00f2n ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1ng. \u201cTin chuy\u1ec7n\u201d \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o n\u1ec1n m\u00f3ng cho \u201cc\u00e1i t\u00f4i\u201d \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1edbn th\u00eam, m\u1ea1nh th\u00eam, v\u00e0 v\u1eefng tr\u1ee5 th\u00eam tr\u00ean chi\u1ebfc gh\u1ebf quan to\u00e0.<\/p>\n

Nh\u01b0ng d\u00f9 hai giai \u0111o\u1ea1n \u201cd\u1ef1ng chuy\u1ec7n, tin chuy\u1ec7n\u201d c\u00f3 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ebfn bao nhi\u00eau \u0111i ch\u0103ng n\u1eefa, s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt kh\u00e1ch quan v\u1eabn kh\u00f4ng thay \u0111\u1ed5i, v\u00ec \u201cd\u1ef1ng chuy\u1ec7n v\u00e0 tin chuy\u1ec7n\u201d ch\u1ec9 di\u1ec5n ra trong n\u1ed9i t\u00e2m con ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec3 che \u0111\u1eady \u0111i\u1ec3m y\u1ebfu trong ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 bi\u1ec7n m\u00ecnh cho h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Ch\u00ednh v\u00ec th\u1ebf, nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c v\u1eabn di\u1ec5n ra \u2013 v\u00e1 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i n\u00f3 c\u00e0ng th\u00eam tr\u1ea7m tr\u1ecdng. Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n kh\u00e1ch quan b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i, nh\u1eefng con ng\u01b0\u1eddi g\u00e2y n\u00ean nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n kh\u00e1ch quan \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 bi\u1ebft v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111ang di\u1ec5n ra trong n\u1ed9i t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. Tr\u1eadn chi\u1ebfn \u0111ang di\u1ec5n ra ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 tr\u1eadn chi\u1ebfn n\u1ed9i t\u00e2m, v\u00e0 k\u1ebb th\u00f9 g\u00e2y n\u00ean tr\u1eadn chi\u1ebfn \u1ea5y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 k\u00eau ng\u1ea1o. Nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf, \u0111\u1ec3 mu\u1ed1n kh\u1ed1ng ch\u1ebf k\u1ebb th\u00f9 k\u00eau ng\u1ea1o, v\u0169 kh\u00ed ta c\u1ea7n d\u00f9ng ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 khi\u00eam t\u1ed1n ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 x\u00e2y th\u00eam ph\u00e1o \u0111\u00e0i \u201cd\u1ef1ng chuy\u1ec7n, tin chuy\u1ec7n.\u201d Hay n\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, h\u00e3y d\u1eb9p b\u1ecf nh\u1eefng t\u01b0\u1eddng lu\u1ef9 \u1ea5y \u0111i, v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01a1n s\u01a1 th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn: T\u00f4i l\u00e0 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, n\u00ean th\u01b0\u1eddng khi v\u1eabn thi\u1ebfu x\u00f3t sai l\u1ed7i.<\/p>\n

M\u1ee5c\u00a0S\u1ed1ng Sao Cho \u0110\u1eb9p<\/em> m\u1eddi b\u1ea1n suy ngh\u0129 \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf trong ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. C\u1ee9 m\u1ed7i l\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n \u201ctr\u00e1i \u00fd\u201d n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 x\u1ea3y \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n. H\u00e3y c\u1ea9n th\u1eadn v\u1edbi ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng \u201cd\u1ef1ng chuy\u1ec7n\u201d. N\u00f3 xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u201cgi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1\u201d b\u1ea1n b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng \u201c\u1ee7ng h\u1ed9, b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7, c\u0169ng c\u1ed1\u201d nh\u01b0ng th\u1ef1c ra, n\u00f3 \u0111ang x\u00e2y n\u00ean m\u1ed9t b\u1ee9c t\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ec3 giam b\u1ea1n \u2013 trong \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt kh\u00e1ch quan \u0111ang di\u1ec5n ra. B\u1ee9c t\u01b0\u1eddng \u1ea5y x\u00e2y c\u00e0ng cao, th\u00ec c\u00e1i t\u00f4i c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n c\u00e0ng l\u1edbn. C\u00e1i t\u00f4i c\u00e0ng l\u1edbn, th\u00ec s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh an c\u00e0ng nh\u1ecf. \u0110\u1ec3 t\u00ecm l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh an, b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng \u0111\u1ee9c khi\u00eam t\u1ed1n. T\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t, kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean x\u00e2y n\u00ean nh\u1eefng b\u1ee9c t\u01b0\u1eddng \u1ea5y. N\u1ebfu \u0111\u00e3 x\u00e2y, h\u00e3y \u0111\u1eadp ph\u00e1 n\u00f3 \u0111i v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n s\u01a1 th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn: T\u00f4i l\u00e0 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, n\u00ean th\u01b0\u1eddng khi v\u1eabn thi\u1ebfu x\u00f3t sai l\u1ed7i.<\/p>\n

Th\u01b0a b\u1ea1n, b\u1ee9c t\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00e0o \u0111ang ng\u0103n c\u00e1ch b\u1ea1n v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n, anh em, b\u1ea1n h\u1eefu? C\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i lo\u1ea1i n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng?<\/p>\n

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